I've had no contact with sociopathic narcissist sibling for almost 6 months. It's a relief and I feel free from the awful treading on eggshells and waiting for him to ' withdraw' my nephew because of an imagined, non existent offense. This has happened every time anyone refused to not support his horrendous abusive behaviour of others.
I have significant health problems. The stress of the narcissistic family dynamic I have lived in has not helped this. I'm now severely unwell and severely compromised. My child is Autistic and will be living primarily with father and half siblings very soon as a result of my illness. Luckily they have always had close contact and son is quite excited.
My child had a close relationship with my siblings child. After the loss of contact between sibling and I, it was very clear he was manipulating his child and keeping him away from mine online. Based on years of this, this is a common behaviour if anything was ever said or suggested that he didn't like. The children have always been manipulated.
I want total and complete removal of anything to do with my brother for my own well being. This sadly includes contact between cousins. I did not want to upset my child or manipulate him in any way but watching this and the intrusion I feel just hearing them talk online ( gaming) is too much. My child will also drop friends the minute cousin suddenly appears again having not been available for months. My sibling will only be allowing contact for his own benefit. It's not healthy and I want the entire connection severed.
I'm struggling as to how to do this, without overpowering my child and dictating who he can and can't play with. He understands my sibling has very inappropriate behaviour and won't be in our lives anymore. My son has himself seen alot of unpleasant behaviour when around him. That part he gets.
How do I manage this regards cutting the cousin away to complete the absolute no contact? Trying to explain the level of manipulation going on here is too much for my 12/13 year old to understand. I don't want to overburden him.
My sons father is very aware and says will support my decision regards there being no contact between my child and my abusive sibling. How do I manage this online situation. I need it out my life permanently and complete separation from this side of my family as my son embarks on a new stage with his father and siblings/ stepmum.
I'm too unwell and compromised to make sure my child is always conveniently busy on the days my siblings child are staying overnight with him and gaming ( 2 to 4 nights a week). I also can't control everything when he's with his dad online. I feel powerless, I want my son to have nothing to do with this hideous toxic dynamic.