I don't know if i'm being completely unreasonable about considering this, but I think I want to cut my sister out of my life for the most part at least. A very basic relationship is really all i'm prepared to have with her.
We've been very close for a long time, but the longer time has gone on, the more I've realised how much I've overlooked the way she treats me, and the most recent incident with her has made me rethink everything.
Every time I get a new phone, I save my old one for her to have. She doesn't earn much money, I always look after my things so they're in good condition, and I offer to give them to her for nothing and set them up for her as well (she hates tech and I work in IT). Her current phone (which i gave her 8 years ago) is on the blink, and she has acted as though it's almost an imposition that I have asked if she wants my new one. She's doing a uni degree to increase her wages in nursing as she doesn't earn much and I know that this has been stressful for her, but she was like this before she began nursing if i'm being honest.
Recently a mutual friend said she had been talking to him about getting a new phone, and he'd mentioned "what about the one your sister is giving you" and her response was that she couldn't take it as she was afraid I would take it off her if we argued.
When he told me this I was really hurt because that has literally NEVER happened in all the years I've been giving her these phones. We had an argument ONCE where I said "give me my phone back then" years ago, and that was off the back of her calling me a c, a b*, selfish, and that I never do anything for her, she also told me that it's no wonder my ex partner was abusive (I had to leave my home due to this).
When I asked her about it a few days later, we were driving to the supermarket, and her response to being asked why was to go absolutely mental. Screaming, shouting, hysterical tears and eventually she got out of the car and then disappeared and text me saying "sorry, I decided to walk home, I needed the air".
Now, this isn't the first time something like this has happened, and as well as her choosing to talk crap behind my back and base her "fears" on out of context things I said (although I admit what I said was not ok), I just honestly don't think I really like her at all. I haven't spoken to her since this whole thing happened, and I don't plan to either. Our mum just puts it down to uni stress, but I have experienced several of these hysterical outbursts where she's stormed off, called me names and made a huge scene - a couple of times when i'm driving, and honestly it scares me and makes me feel guilty - like I am the one who did something to cause it - I suppose I did in that i just disagreed with her and asked her why she was acting this way.
She recently had a friend who I could tell was extremely transactional and toxic, and when I told her friend not to try pulling the same crap on me, my sister stuck up for her "new best friend" and came at me over it, only for this friend to ditch her out of the blue a couple of months later and my sister come crying to me about it.
I feel as though i'm giving too much, and i'm getting nothing but shit back. I've paid for hotel rooms at nice places, bought her lovely gifts, taken us places and tried to be kind, helpful and supportive, and whilst I don't expect the same back, i don't expect to be taken advantage of and snapped at and treated like crap.
Also given that i've had everything to deal with after my breakup with someone quite emotionally abusive and narcissitic, I kind of feel like i'm just done with ANYONE in my life who makes me feel like crap. Our mum thinks we should just make up, and that i'm being dramatic for not speaking to her.
Am I?