Have a crash on a guy

[Elena08]

Hello Everyone ,

I think I need a bit of an advise . I have met someone at work , but we only look at each other and give quite an intense looks and he makes excuses to come and see someone we work with to ask some information while I’m in that room . He even comes in one fix day a week to be in the office knowing that I’m there . This has been going on for quite a long time now . I couldn’t understand why he does that but doesn’t make a move , so I’ve asked someone if he has a partner and he does , unfortunately . I will never destroy or interfere in the family , but at the same time I think I fell in love with him and don’t know what to do ? Do I stop looking at his and so I will let him understand that he shouldn’t have dine it in the first place as he is not single , but sometime we cannot control our emotions , so it’s a difficult one . Never been sin such a situation , so maybe someone has any tips ? Thank you .

Just ignore him. You cannot be in love with someone you have not even spoken to and I suspect he is in that one day for other reasons than to look at you. He also is in a relationship so just look the other way.

Someone giving me quite an intense look would make me run 😂

And what shouldn’t he have done in the first place? Intensely look at you? Be in the office at all? 😂

Just ignore. You can't 'fall in love' with someone you just stare at, and whom you think is making excuses to be in the same room as you. As I understand your post, you've never even had a significant conversation with this colleague?

He clearly shouldn't be wandering around desirably in the workplace. Being all desirable and stuff.

OP, perhaps it would help to think that his 'intense looks' are due to periodic absent-mindedness ('What do I fancy for lunch?' 'Is there life after death?' 'What did I come into this office to ask?') or the discomfort of concealing flatulence.

It's your wishful thinking, apart from looking at you he's given no indication of being romantically interested, he's already in a relationship, non starter. It's not love, you just have a strong attraction to him, ignore the feelings and definitely don't behave like you fancy him, that would be embarrassing

Thanks for all your replies and what a nice way of giving an advice . I think sometimes our eyes say more than the words could say . It was such a big mistake posting and asking for advice in here .

Why, because no one agrees with you that he's probably desperately in love with you, communicating this via eye contact alone, but in fact longing to make sweet love in the stationary cupboard and leave his partner?

I think you talking nonsense here and with such an aggressiveness . OMG .

Get over yourself! You sound like a teen!

If he is staring longingly at you, do you really want a man who behaves like a smarmy creep when his partner and kids are at home?

Grow up, ignore him and focus on meeting someone properly without pathetic games.

Were you hoping everyone would advise you to break up this bloke's marriage?

Oh dear, do grow up.. it sounds a little pathetic. He has a family leave him alone

People are aggressive because he's married. He has a family.

Even if he was somehow interested (although it doesn't sound like he is tbh), you would be so so so out of line to pursue it. So why does it matter?

Leave this married man alone

He probably hasn’t made a move because he has a partner and it’s probably one sided. My advice would be to stop looking at him so if he does look at you with intense looks you can’t see him or if you catch his eye just look away.