How come blokes have the monopoly on mid life crises etc...

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Just wondering.... How come it is acceptable for blokes to have any sort of mid life crisis and they need tonnes of sympathy and space etc.. while us girls try to be accomodating till they get over it?
Just a thought after reading some threads on here.
Maybe it's like man flu. You know a slight cold which requires full bed rest for about a week?
Maybe I'll have a crisis tomorrow and have to lie in bed in a darkened room only coming out to eat 5 bars of choc and watch daytime tv a bit before it all gets too much and I have to go and lie down again..........

Oh no, I forgot, I can't cos I have 2 kids to look after.....and also I'm not a bloke therefore that would not be acceptable.

Or is it just me?????

Well, the bulk of it is due to the lingering cultural idea that men matter more than women and women exist for the benefit of men. Even the nicest of men are accustomed to having their needs take priority over those of women, and in a relationship where responsibilities have been divided along fairly traditional lines, it's easy for men to stay in the mindselt that they are the important ones in the family, head of the household and the one whose wishes come first.

what a cheek - i'm a bloke and have no time for a mid life crisis. the only crisis going on here is the woodworm in my loft seems to have sprung back into action. dont even have time to treat it so will have to call someone in.

Hi singledad.
I do apologise to you.
Is it the same from a bloke's perspective if they are the ones mainly responsible for the childcare?

pah... listen, if you dont make time for your midlife crises, who will eh? you have to get in there first... its subsidence of the fastest.

i myself am having a mid life crisis. im only 32 and female to boot. beat that!

dp is v good at housework and taking care of me and the dc, which is good eh?

instead of bitching about men do this and men get that, just live your life and get on with it. and if your man is unlikely to support you in a crisis, get rid. men are just as capable of being caring etc as us birds. jsut have to chuck em in at the deep end... exactly like everyone else when it comes to all the hard shit in life.

is hard to tell - most of the women i know seem to be in a state of perpetual crisis, it just changes topic from day to day

you were probably being serious there - in which case, nah, havent really considered it. is just the way we are.

theres good man and rubbish men. if yours is rubbish, bin him and get a goodun.

pretty simple really.

(says she, with a goodun )

It's not acceptable at all! They just do it anyway, and leave us to clear up the pieces! (sorry singleDof3 not you obviously, but most) Grr.

what seems to happen is this: Man thinks 'Oo weren't it brilliant before the lady and the kiddies came along. Bit itchy now, who'll gimme a nice scratch'
Lady nods head (knowingly): 'must be time for his MLCriseees. Never mind I'll d'it all on me own'

Agree with Elephantsbreath, but then that has been my experience of life. Don't know about the mid life bit however. First dh had this at 25, and the 2nd dh at 32. Maybe I just get on their nerves much earlier!!

Also agree with Madamez. Men are used to getting away with all their crap and women tend to pander to it.

A very useful question, EB. Bout time somebody investigated it.