I don't quite know how to phrase this but i broke up with my dp a while ago and we were trying to have counsellning and work through out issues. Now he's told me again that my opinion doesn't count and I am to shut up about some issues that i have (while at the same banging on about issues to do with me - they are of equal standing in my view)!!
I feel so angry now. Why cannot he accept that even if he hates my opinion, I am still entitled to not only hold it, but say it? He's not exactly holding back on me . He is basiscally saying that he can decide wwhat we talk about and when and i must not disagree or raise topics he doesn't like. He has sent me reams of emails about thngs we've dicussed/done together which I have rpelied to and he then says "vindication!!" and discounts my opinion and closer the subject forever. I do raise it again with him and then he accuses me of tit for tat behavior which means he can ignore me and he tells me thatI need anger management to bring myself back into line (I have seen him jump up and down with rage before now, literally foaming at the mouth with rage. If I mention it though, he would say that I provoked him as we'd had a row just before this) I wouldn't mind so much but a consellor told us recently that he seemed to do most of hte talking, cutting across me and he ought to give me time to marshal my thoughts/give me time to speak which he took on board at the time but now he is applies this gullotine on topics to ones he deosn't like so he can bring up whatever he likes (throw it at me more like) but if I raise something, I am tit for tatting or vindicating. I would cry now but I am so angry, I cannot. I also have a headache from my frustration he will not listen to me