Feels like years since I've been on mumsnet and I cant find original post.
Just want to say a bit thank you to all those who responded. I was overwhelmed and it helped me see sense and get through a difficult period. I cried loads but all your help really prompted me into action. I had no idea I was being bullied.
Yes, I flew out there and back with ds. Wasn't great. Sil was the biggest bitch but I was OK and given that things got really really nasty before we went it bearable.
Yes, saw 'dying' fil for a total of 3 hours!
Back home with ds, husband and mil. Marriage problems are now the big issue. DH working 24/7 so I'm looking after mil here on an open ticket. I should be mad as hell at looking after her given the nastiness but it's been calm as dh and mil need me. However, dh has been home for 45 with his mum and the crap has already started (teaching ds to say I'm a difficult mummy in their language etc and the mother son whispers)- so just need to sort out marriage now.
But I'm fine, ds is fine and safe so thank you all so much. No one can touch my ds without my permission.
I'll post an update soon (I've already sought legal advice about the whole thing).
Thanks so much - I feel so much stronger and very very humbled.