Cheating partner. Banter not funny why

[Jen8619harls]

Ok … as a woman being loyal down to earth. Appreciate my man adore him. He takes the mick out of me. Depends where he works which group of lads. Don’t want to judge all “builders “ but it seems a pattern. My partner of ten years we have one beautiful 5 yr old. We’re good for 2 week then he had to be that dick. Goes pub Stays out comes knocking daft o’clock even when I let him him in he’s laughing wants his bed. Wakes up pissing in my Bedroom and everywhere else. Calls my names. Tramp, melt, lazy bitch, slag, scrubber, I make shit teas. Don’t bother making his buttys for work as I do cos they’re shit too. Then the criticism but this is when we’re home together maybe having a drink o don’t do enough. I need to go to the gym. I should get my nails done. Pointing out flaws on my skin. The list goes on. Been that drunk….. I just heard myself … I feel like that’s and excuse being drunk and it’s not he’s nasty without it. He said he’d stab me in the neck. Kill me. Loud as day. Hasn’t apologies. If o say I’m upset or hurt or sad or scared the responses Is. NO YOUR NOT. hurts me so so much I know I’m stupid. But this man can be nice. But I am scared cos I don’t think this is normal behaviour. Mine isn’t for still being with him 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ I know he cares but hates me takes things out on me somewhat I don’t know why. He came to me. I’d not ah e looked twice. But killing my self esteem confidence all of me. I feel broken. No one sees. My dad wasn’t I. My life. I’d never take my child’s daddy away from him. But if I say it’s over this man will not leave me. He’s cheated so many times. I’m humiliated. Even writing this.
just feels like even though I have a good support no one’s wants to know
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What do you appreciate and adore about him? He sounds like a cruel, abusive, cheating drunk to me.

For your sons sake you need to leave before he starts thinking it's ok to treat women like this.

I've read some horrible stuff on here, but never as bad as this.

You cannot let this be your life OP, you just can't.

I’d never take my child’s daddy away from him

No. No no no no no. When he's abusive like this you MUST take your child away from his father. He's literally threatened to kill you and has a history of a whole raft of other abusive behaviour and given what you've demonstrated here about still wanting to please him I'm willing to bet that there's more going on that warrants a referral to social services. If and when that happens (because there will probably be people who know you in real life who will care about you enough to report) you have to be seen to be safeguarding your child or you will lose him.

Don't let it get that far. Your son has the right to grow up in a healthy home without abuse. Is there anyone you can reach out to in real life to help you take the first steps towards this?

Drinking doesn’t seem to agree with him does it

If you don't love yourself to get rid of this man from your life, PLEASE love your child enough to do so.

He's threatened violence; he attempts to drink-drive with your child on a motorbike; this is not normal, it's abusive and scary and potentially lethal for your child.

Remove yourself and your child from this man's vicinity.

Call the police, social services and get help. Make sure he only sees your son at a contact centre so he can't harm him.

Please love your child enough to do this.

OP you sound in a really bad way. He’s confused you, abused you and messed you around so much you don’t know which way is up. Is there anyone in real life who will help you and your son to get away? Anyone you can talk to?

my heart goes out to you ❤️

You’re going to severely damage your child if you stay with this man. And so the cycle continues.

You leave, and report his threat to stab you to the police. You really don’t have another choice here unless you want to become a statistic.

How is your child? I would imagine he must feel scared when his dad comes home late and starts having a go at you.
Have he ever thrown anything at you, hurt you or damaged property? Is the house in your name or joint? Separating does not mean your child won't see their dad, but it will mean your child won't see his mum being treated like shit as much.

I can appreciate it can be hard to leave at times but this man has threatened to bloody kill you and your child is in this house witnessing this. That alone should be enough for you to leave. Please for your own sake aswell, get him out and phone the police, your child will pick up on how he treats you and think it's normal.

Please leave for your and your child’s sake. He’s 100% abusive and nothing will ever change.

If you can't leave for your own sake please leave to protect your child

Please get some help to leave this man. Women's Aid, family, friends, police - he is dangerous and it is very damaging for you and your child to be around him. I know it's scary to leave but if you stay it will only get worse. Please, for the sake of your little one, you need to leave.

im so sorry OP abuse will only get worse please save yourself and your DC, there is help out there please call domestic abuse helpline

Do better for your daughter for the love of god.

This man threatened to stab you in the neck, and you adore him?! Why? Why would you adore anyone who threatened you like that? Who actively treats you like he despises you.

Look I have a lot of empathy for you, but honestly, due to my own background, child abuse is my line in the sand, and by staying with this waste of skin, you are subjecting your child to an abusive household. That is not ok. If you can’t leave for yourself, do it for your son, otherwise he’s going to be damaged for life and you will both be to blame.