The relationship is done for

[Blimey2023]

Hoping for some advice what others would do if in same position.
We've been together 12 years 2 children both school age.
I've felt over and done with this relationship for a very long time which we have spoke about but my feelings aren't taking seriously.
We got together when I was so young he's all I've ever known. But I know deep down this isn't love. I don't feel attracted to him anymore, I don't want to be in a sexual relationship with him, sad to say and hate myself for it but I get the ick when he makes sexual advances (in general I haven't felt any desire to him or anyone else nor would I want a relationship after him I truly want to be on my own). He's got no motivation and it brings me down too.
I feel drained physically and mentally being with him. I know he won't leave if I ask him to as (only my name on house i rent) he has no job or anywhere else to go no family etc. It's a pity party whenever I try and say how I feel that I'm trying to kick him while he's down and he has nothing apart from us so of course I feel guilty and the all my emotions just fester inside now leading to resentment. I feel so trapped and constantly thinking this is my life forever and I can't bare it.

Why doesn't he work? Illness or laziness?

In general can't find a job and can't sign on as he has no photo id he got refused cuz lack of proof of who he is

Give notice on the lease and find another place to rent, then he'll have to go when the lease runs out and he's had fair warning. His problem if he's done nothing about finding anywhere. Does he have family he could stay with temporarily? Do you? Sound like you have a cock-lodger. I hope he at least mucks in around the house and with childcare.

He doesn't drive or have a passport? Not much of a life he's living really, no wonder you're fed up.

You do not need his permission to break up with him.

It's only a relationship if both parties want to be in it. You definitely don't, and frankly it's not clear whether he actually does or whether he's just onto an easy ticket where he doesn't have to take any responsibility for himself.

He is not your responsibility. You are not bound by any law or moral obligation to feed, house or support him financially, nor does your happiness matter less than his. You are not obliged to sacrifice yourself indefinitely because he "doesn't have anything else".