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27F. Very happy single woman but would like to date and see how things go. Matched with a few people and 2 standing out.

One guy- very nice guy, works abroad at the moment but coming back in 2 months, schedules a video call every night with me, even when on-call and when his colleagues come in to ask him work stuff, I can see all of that. Shows me his work accommodation and everything. Doesn’t feel like he’s got a hidden wife or other life.

2nd guy- nice and polite guy but only wants FWB. I’m talking to him for fun. Not met up yet as I’m deciding if I’m going to go through with FWB. I’m 85% sure I won’t do hookup. I don’t watch his stories and I don’t reply to anything related to him personally to make sure I’m not hurt. He sometimes sends me a photo of him and his dog but I don’t reply. Only reply when it’s a sexy photo. But anyway he intrigues me though. Replies instantly pretty much. And if the conversation is dry, I’ll say, have a good day or ok, he’ll reply ok back or you too. I don’t know… I just feel like maybe there could be a chance he wants something more. But again, I doubt it because he sends me nudes. Ugh I think I’m gonna ghost him soon.

what do you guys think? i do like guy 1, he seems like a good guy.

Sending nudes - yuk

I just feel like maybe there could be a chance he wants something more.

He doesn't. He's told you very clearly that he doesn't.

If you're going to get into dating, you absolutely must remember the golden rule that when a guy tells you he isn't looking for anything serious, HE MEANS IT. Don't kid yourself with "maybe..." and reading too much into things like how quickly he responds or whether or not he's viewing your stories. That path just leads to hurt.

If you're already having to avoid certain things with this guy so as to not get attached and get hurt, this situation is obviously not for you.

I don't think FWB is right for you. Don't meet up with the second one.

If he's aware you only want FWB it's a bit weird that he sends non sex stuff

But it doesn't seem to me that you DO want FWB

1st guy sounds lovely but don't string him along if you only want FWB

Guy number 2 probably has scores of irons in the fire like yourself, every now and then 1 will bite and he gets his "benefits". If you're happy with that then go for it. If not then dont! Sending nudes is clearly not the behaviour of a normal, even half decent bloke. All he wants is you know what!

Neither, is that the best you're aiming for? 2 poor options really.
Videocalling every night for at least 2 months is way too much, it's far too invested before you've even met. Breaks every rule really. You may well find he just disappears after 2 months are up. By then you've invested heaps of time and will feel the silence deeply. Chat for no more than 2 weeks before meeting, and if someone is trying to connect with a person so far away, it's not usually for good reasons.
You sound quite naive for OLD, new to it?

@Opentooffers is spitting facts! No point investing months of texting back and forth only to meet and feel zero connection. Message for a few days/week or so then meet up if it seems worth a punt.

Are you saying you have never met him and he sends you nudes?

Nothing wrong with having some casual no strings attached fun with a hunky man you’ll never want to see again, it’s so empowering!

I just feel like maybe there could be a chance he wants something more

Why would you think this when he's told you he doesn't?

You're not one of those women who believes men don't know their own minds and that a good woman can change him are you? Don't be a fool!

Where is guy 1 working? My brother's pal is working in Thailand at the moment. He's got a girlfriend at home who he video calls twice daily.

Brother knows he's been playing away over and way while gone. Girlfriend clueless.

It's a hard place to build a relationship from - video calls.