My sister has a habit of not replying to messages. We don’t message all the time, maybe once a month and see each other every few months. But I’ve noticed often when I message to say hi or ask a question, she won’t always reply. So I’ll ask if she is free at the weekend for a visit. Or if she wants to pop round. Or I’ll ask her a specific question about something and she won’t reply either way. And then weeks will pass and I’ll hear nothing.
Maybe a month later she will then message and not mention or refer to the previous messages I sent. I understand that people are busy with life and can’t always reply, but this happens a lot. So that when she does message me, I don’t have the inclination to reply promptly, which then feels petty. An example being I messaged her about a month ago to see if she was free to meet up that weekend. She didn’t reply and obviously we didn’t meet up as the weekend passed. I hadn’t heard from her until yesterday, when she messaged to say hi. This happens a lot. There is no issue between us, but I just find it annoying. How do you manage this? Do you just simply match their energy and communication style? So don’t rush to reply to their messages? I generally reply to anyone’s messages according to their urgency and normally within a day or so.