He's dumped me out of the blue and got someone else

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I'm absolutely broken and crying, my bf has broken up with me and I've found out he's with a girl barely out of school, I really don't know what to do. We had plans to move into a house and start a family now he's shacked up with someone much younger

It hurts now, but this really is one of those ‘you’ve dodged a bullet’ moments.

How old are the people involved?

how long with him?

but i’m going to guess there’s always been a lot of drama in this relationship

So sorry this happened to you but thank the universe this turn of events happened BEFORE you got the house and family as he's clearly a wrong'un. Imagine him running off with a school girl when you've got a home and kids. Doesn't bear to think about it. You deserve better x

I'm so sorry. It will get easier, and one day (probably not to far away) you'll realised you're better off without him. After all, he's the type of person who goes from being serious / planning to move in together, to moving on to someone else.

You must be reeling. Are you living together at present?

So sorry this happened to you but thank the universe this turn of events happened BEFORE you got the house and family

This. If he was cheating on you with the other woman, you're better off without him and it would all have been so much worse if you were entangled with children and joint property.

Nasty little cheat. It may not seem like this at present but you're well shot.

Sorry you’re going through this. A similar thing happened to me when I was in my early 20’s. One week my Ex was saying he wanted to marry and have a future with me and then a couple of weeks later he dumped me. 2 weeks later I found out he was going on a date with a younger girl he knew. It’s so shocking and hard to get your head around how someone can just suddenly flip and change their mind.
What I’ve since come to realise is that it isn’t a sudden thing for them. He’s probably been thinking about the breakup for a lot longer than it seems, and maybe was continuing to make future plans with you whilst deciding if it’s what he really wants or not. It’s not fair, but sometimes people don’t do things in the right way or are open and honest.
What really helped me to start getting over him was to think of all the bad traits he had and being thankful I don’t have to deal with them anymore, but that someone else has to! Like, thank goodness I don’t have to deal with his bossiness in the kitchen, now the new girl can put up with being told how to chop an onion and I can chop them however I like! It’ll be silly things like that that you maybe haven’t realised were an issue until now.
You can also be thankful that you’re not in a relationship with someone who makes promises and plans he doesn’t keep. Now the new girl has to be in a relationship with a person who isn’t totally trustworthy, you don’t have to be! Yey!
Honestly though, it does take time to fully heal from it. If you think like in the way I’ve given you examples of then it won’t be too long until you’re over him, it can just take a bit longer until you get over the actual relationship and broken trust. That’s the hard bit. You’ll soon start thinking he’s gross and why was I ever with him etc.
This experience will also really help you to know what you want from a future partner, so I’m the future you can look at this relationship as a great learning curve for what you will or will not accept in a relationship.
I think I read some books like The breakup Bible and He’s just not that into you, which both helped me understand things a bit more.
I also felt for a while that I’d never meet anyone again. But I am now very happily married to an amazing man and have a toddler. Various other fantastic things have happened to me that I would never have done had I stayed with my ex. So I’m extremely glad now how it all worked out!

Yes we were renting but he's walked out and left me, we were in the process of buying a house

So sorry OP. Like others have said, you’ve dodged a bullet.. how disgusting of him.

He's with a girl barely out of school so she's 17/18?

You've dodged a bullet,he's a cheat,a liar and a pervert.

Time to focus on you;at some point you'll meet someone else,not all men are cheats.

Op I know it doesn't feel like this at the moment but this is for you the best thing that could have happened.

If it was going to happen sooner or later then it's better it's sooner...doesn't make it easier at present though 🙁

Do whatever you have to do to get through at present, keep busy, cry, talk to people etc

Thank God you never had children with him or buy a house with him.
You will be ok OP. In fact you will be more than OK.
This is just the beginning for you now. You will find someone who deserves you. And he will probably end up miserable.

I've just had no luck with guys, the 2nd engagement that I've had broken, the other one cheated on me days before we were due to get married

3rd time lucky. Chin up.

You’ve found out he’s very dodgy at a much better time than finding it out once you’re even more involved with him.

You poor thing OP give it time. Lots and lots and lots of time. Bastard x

Been told she's only 16

How old are you both?

16??

How old is he / you?

It probably hurts to hear it, but you've had a lucky escape. Absolutely everyone has one of these in their backstory. And most people look back and say thank God it happened before we got married, had kids bought a house etc.

Aww OP this is really hard. But you WILL be happier without him. Like others say you have dodged a bullet! A man who goes for young women is scum of the earth and not someone to trust your heart with.

Try to think that you have dodged a bullet. He sounds gross.

I'm 31, he's 37