So I’ve posted about this before but things have taken a turn…again.
long story short and without drip feeding. I was in a secret and abusive relationship with a family friend 15 years my senior when I was 18 until I was 22. It was abusive emotionally/mentally at the beginning and it progressed to physical and sexual abuse. He was found guilty for some offences however I didn’t have enough evidence to charge him with sexual assault. It has been logged by my doctor though.
I’m 28 now and my abuser died at the end of last year. It was a relief for me as he was in my parents local town which I no longer frequented for fear of meeting him.
as i said he was a family friend and my aunt and him had a fling when she was 13 and he was 19 (i know!! I only found this out after he died and it makes my stomach churn!). She always fancied him even after that.
before he died, my family knew the story of what happened regarding abuse however I didn’t go into detail out of fear more than anything. When he died, I rang round my family as I finally felt safe enough to tell my story. My aunt, upon telling her, told me that that was my perception of things and that she would be attending the funeral/wake.
I was heartbroken as I just told her he sexually assaulted me in the worst way possible. So I cut ties with her.
fast forward to today, I am getting married to the most amazingly wonderful man very very very soon. My granny who is more than just a granny to me and always has been arrived to my house with a present for the wedding and one from my aunt. I text my aunt last night and thanked her for the gifts but declined them telling her I didn’t want them, I wanted her support and solidarity.
my granny who I just love the bones of has now rang me today to say she’s not going to the wedding because some of her family aren’t invited.
I am heartbroken - she knew my aunt wasn’t invited and has waited until the 11th hour to tell me she’s not going. Don’t know what I’m looking for I just feel like they’ve sided with my abuser over me. Thank you if you’ve read this far.