Very poor relationship with parents

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Really struggling as no contact at the moment (years of criticism from my mother and my father goes along with it) dh father died and I they didn’t speak to me at the funeral and rang once since and I wouldn’t answer as I was so hurt. Six months of no contact is deeply affecting me as dh is close to his family - how can I get through this time ? Any advice appreciated

things that my mother has said in the past has been going on since childhood that I am boring and no wonder I have no friends (I was shy) and that I would have a chance of getting a job in marks and Spencer as there was a girl with Down syndrome working in it .. right through to getting my degree and going to to get a decent career and get married and have a family (she would still find something to criticise)

I could go on and on but they rang my dh and said they don’t know what they did to me 😭

She starts rows and causes hurricanes over nothing and sits back and cries that she is treated so badly so I have quietly walked away from the drama

she said I spoilt Christmas as I rubbed in my brothers face (he is separated) and I called up with my husband and kids … enough was enough (this was after her telling me not to call down but I knew that was a trick and if I didn’t call down that would have started a row) so I got that horrible comment and then I didn’t call back again