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Partners ex is driving me insane

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Hannahferris99 · 09/06/2024 19:32

First ever post - but hoping someone can help

my partner has an ex who he shares a child with, ever since I came on the scene she’s wanted me out the picture made it very clear I’ll have nothing to do with her child and even stops him seeing her if she’s not allowed on my socials or if I don’t speak to her? Stating his child can be around our child we share but I’m not? She’s going to report me to the police (which I’m not even sure the reasons she won’t say.) and now she’s making videos about me on socials with untrue things? (I was sent them by her friend who also is my friend.) but stating I stalk her? I’m ugly? And that I’ll never compare to her? Can someone please explain this because I don’t get what I’ve done wrong and I’ve tried having conversations to clear the air but she still keeps causing arguments so I’ve had to block her on everything but now I’m getting stopped by people asking me why I’m stopping my partner seeing his child which wasn’t me? I ruin her child’s clothes on purpose? She cannot supply us clothes or comforts for her child because we’d then ‘benefit.’ From them? Like this is madness and no one seems to hear the truth? It’s singling me out and I can’t cope with the constant anxiety from this situation

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StopGo · 09/06/2024 19:40

The child's father needs to have everything to cover their needs and comfort on his time. That said do you really need this grief?

DPotter · 09/06/2024 19:45

Please don't waste your time trying to understand this person.

Go to the police and report her for harassment on social media.

Tell your partner to tell her to back off. If he doesn't / can't / won't I'm sorry but you have your answer - he's not worth the hassle. Sad but true

Hannahferris99 · 09/06/2024 19:46

We have everything here clothes, toys, new shoes her own snacks cupboard etc but she sometimes likes to bring a new toy she’d got to show us but isn’t allowed yet we allow her and never get any of it back and even don’t get our clothes returned so I’m unsure where her accusations are from. The grief is alot I’m not going to lie I feel constantly in battle with someone who I don’t even associate with and have only tried to help etc. we share a child and I love him but I don’t love the constant animosity

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TheShellBeach · 09/06/2024 19:47

Your boyfriend needs to deal with her, and you need to ignore her.

Hannahferris99 · 09/06/2024 19:57

I have gone to the police and logged but because the ‘harassment’ isn’t threatening to my life/childs life they can only log this.

he has tried believe me he gets met with not seeing his daughter or her ignoring him at the door on his days he has rights to see her
her current partner and herself are constantly arguing along with throwing things and hitting which the child tells her dad but nothing again he can do not even to protect his child he has got the school involved but until the child explains to the school themselves they also don’t care

I’ve had to change my number three times as she keeps sending me nasty texts or even to my partner about me even came to the vehicle on drop offs to cause arguments with me in which I explain I don’t want to argue so I’ve stopped going there, I cannot attend any school events to support his child because of her yet their child gets upset if I don’t come or she’s told their child I don’t care for her and I don’t like her but it’s not the child it’s her mum.

im finding this overwhelming

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