Couple who have clearly split

[LePetitMarseillias]

After a very long marriage and 3 kids. Have started posting photos of themselves with their new partners on social media.
The husband just turned 50 and it feels really mid-life crisis.
But now she's at it too!
It's making me cringe. It feels competitive & performative.
They have grown kids (teens-early 20's) who must hate this.
Am I being mean to think there's absolutely no need to plaster it everywhere?

Yes you are being mean. On the face of it 2
people have split and moved on with other people and are posting about their lives like millions of other people.
I’m curious what do you want them to do?

It must depend on how much they're doing it?

They can't act single forever and if they have found someone else why should they keep it a secret?

2 people that were obviously unhappy have made the decision to split and are now happy with other people yet you're mad at them for not hiding away in a cave??

It's not 1935.

What’s wrong with it?

If their style has always been to post stuff on SM then fine. If not, then weird. Either way, it’s probably a bit insensitive to their DC. i wouldn’t do it. My business is my business, so clearly I’m from 1935.

Agree - I see no problem.

Some people post stuff on SM all the time, others less so. My first serious relationship after separating was 6 months later and after a month had posted.

If they’ve split, so what? Imagine being so invested in others lives.

Get a hobby 👀

Ha! Me too.

Of course I'm happy that they're happy. That's great for them both.

I just couldn't do that to my kids. Feels so self involved and attention seeking.

How is living your life and posting on social media with a new partner attention seeking?

Are you only allowed to do that if you've been married 5 years?

It's frequent. One does it, then the other does it. It's cringe making.
I know I can unfollow them.
Off to do that now.

OP they're doing nothing wrong when it comes to thier kids they are actually showing them a good example of life going well again after being unhappy. What would you prefer they stayed together & that would be better for the kids? Some folks are definitely a bit ott on social media , however it is up to them. The kids could be really happy seeing posts of mum and dad happy again? How do u know its affecting the kids in a negative way & not a positive way? What's your situation like at home? Sure your not jealous? Why is it bothering you so much?

@LePetitMarseillias Absolutely right, it's cringe! They don't need to plaster everything they do all over social media. It looks like tit-for-tat behaviour...ooh look at us!!
Very childish. Of course go away and enjoy whatever it is your doing but do the rest of us really care? Just my opinion.

Yes, you are being mean.

Surely you’d have to be following these people to see their SM updates?

Unfollow. There you go, simple.

Yep, just unfollow them so you don't see it. Where are they posting, FB?. If so their kids won't be bothered. Younger people don't use it.

my husband and I hear far to much of his mothers sordid indiscretions from the mouth of my father in law. Think 7 + affairs. She's actually known at work as the name clickity clack. I wish I could erase everything .

This is really mean. Why are you bothered about two people who've made the brave decision to end a relationship that isn't working and the then then show pictures with new partners. Good on 'em. Stop being so judgemental

They have both moved on. Why shouldn’t they post on SM, that’s what it’s for. Is it cringe for you to post on SM?

Struggling really hard to work out why the OP's annoyed at this... Just leave them alone, you curtain twitcher...

Who says their kids even see the posts? Is this on FB? Most younger people don’t even use it.

OK and?

Maybe their kids are happy that their parents are happy? It affects you in no way- stop being fake caring.

Well the dcs are aware anyway of the string on new partners I’m sure.

How is it worse that it’s on FB vs knowing about it face to face?

im always wondering about those posts around SM and FB.
People fretting about who posts what and whether it’s ‘acceptable’ or not.
I mean that’s what SM is for. Showcasing your life (or rather the good bits that you want people to see). Everyone who uses SM does that.
So why such a fuss? If you didn’t want to ‘show off’ you simply wouldn’t be on SM.

It's absolutely none of your business!

People like you amaze me!

Who cares? Why do you care so much?