OLD does this sound odd

[beachguy]

Below is a copy of my chat after a match with someone. I’m quite new to this so not sure if it’s good or not. She doesn’t sound that interested but I’ve asked her out in the hope she’s just bad at texting? 🤷🏻‍♂️
Sorry if the photos upload out of sequence couldn’t figure out how to rearrange!

What do you think is odd about it? It seems usual stuff to me.

Yes it's very polite.

Oh probably just me. I’ve chatted to a few people and it’s been a bit more than single line succinct answers over several days?

seem odd she not asking any questions etc but maybe she is shy. Like I said I’ve asked her out as I get a good feeling about her maybe she’s just a little nervous?

She gives bland short answers and doesn't elaborate, so there is no opportunity for banter hence, it doesn't flow as well as it could. That might be why you're feeling odd about it. Stunted replies.
Unfortunately there are too many reasons for that, only one of many being lack of interest. She might be jaded by OLD in general - who can blame her, it's often tedious. She could have some ASD traits. Personally, the question "what are you up to today?" Can leave me feeling a tad uninspired as a subject to chat about. Better to ask about something they have put in their profile, it shows you've put in the effort of reading, rather than just looking at their picture.
In a nutshell, inconclusive as to reason at this stage. Given time, either conversion will start to flow better, or you will get bored and want to move on.

Hard to tell from this exchange. Why not suggest a chat on the phone so you can gauge her interest better?

Is she following the Burn the Haystack rules? The method gives guidelines about how much effort to make .

It's very bland isn't it, I wouldn't get too excited over 'yeah sure' answer either, not many questions from her which makes me think she's not that bothered, leave the ball in her court, that's the only way you can tell, you've left the last two messages.

I agree she doesn't sound that interested. You've told her to let you know when she's free twice and she's basically ignored that. Her last message is very closed. In general it seems you've been carrying the conversation.

People like this are annoying. Why bother matching with people if you don't want to talk or meet up?

I'd just leave it now. Even if she is just nervous or a bad texter, the point is you're having to make all the effort already which doesn't bode well.

Dry, uninspiring, boring. Get her in the bin & move on. Sorry, OP.

who’s who? Is she yellow or white?

the “do work from home or work” question is a bit creepy

Not sure what the first couple of comments are on about as these texts are a bit off.

She is just answering your Qs and not really acting that interested in your life or what you’re up to.

Its obvious that you are making more effort than her.

But I wouldn’t throw this one away just yet as some people are just bad at texting/knowing what to say.

If you think you might be compatible then go ahead and meet and then we how you get on.

Why is it creepy to ask someone if they WFH?

That’s a pretty standard question these days.

Nobody you click with will communicate with you in a way that feels odd to you. You're not looking for someone who does everything 'normally', are you? You want someone who fits you, matches your quirks, feels good at every turn, right from the word go?

This isn't her.

@Choochoo21 it asking her where can he find is during the day.

It may be a normal question for a first date but not for the second question you ask on a dating app

Yeah she is not interested, sorry. You might get her out for a drink if she is bored with nothing else to do.

If she is a Sue or Susie this seems to be the norm. My MIL and my friend both do this haha. I'll give an essay and I'll get back "Yes it is" or something. Winds me up.

Just meet up and chat. There's no point in endless chat every day when you don't even know each other.

There’s this and then there’s a more succinct answer from @ILikeItWhatIsIt Dry, uninspiring, boring. Get her in the bin & move on. Sorry, OP

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Absolutely, I yap at people then expect them to yap back!

@beachguy she doesn't sound very sparky. Perhaps wait until she messages back? There has to be SOME effort.

I wouldn't read anything into it other than busy, probably would like to meet someone but doesn't enjoy OLD.

I'll be honest, your questions are quite closed-ended. I'm not saying change radically as you seem kind and polite, and this lady is a tough crowd but there are more interesting and interested questions to ask an engineer than do they WFH (not being rude, I certainly don't agree it was creepy, just small talky in the extreme).

I wouldn't press on with the chat. She's not keeping her end up or showing any reciprocal interest. If you liked her profile then leave it in her court 'do let me know if you fancy that drink or coffee, so much nicer meeting in person!' make clear you're leaving it with her.

The lack of questions in return would irritate me. I agree, make it clear that you'd like to go for a date if she wants to meet up, and leave it there.

But she wouldn’t have told him where she lived or worked anyway, so it’s not like he could find her.

It sounds like OP was just trying to make conversation.

@Choochoo21 I think he needs to improve his chat. That was the first I thought. It strange question and irrelevant. Whether she WFH or in an office make little difference to her suitability as a potential date.

maybe something about hobbies or interest you share would be a better way to go

Yes I do agree that asking if you WFH isn’t the most exciting question of relevant to dating but she’s not very good at asking questions herself and so he was just trying to keep the conversation flowing.