sex after childbirth, petrified

[newmummy27]

had a very traumatic birth, episiotomy, stitches,theatre, blood transfusion. have pnd. Dh and i arguing a lot. how long did it take you to want sex again at the moment i feel like i will never want it again and when i look down below it doesnt look right and i dont think i have healed... 21 weeks down the line. is this normal?

very, very normal!!!!!!!!!

if your fanjo is still not 'looking right' go have have a chat with gp though

hi new mummy congratulations on your babysorry about the birth and ensuing problems it can be really really hard.

as for sex as I recall it took about 3-4 weeks for intercourse and it was all 'left a bit right...a bit...stop...go on'

joking aside I think it would be good for you two to talk, being close and showing affection generally the way to go.

as for PND are you getting help? it is hard and you need support

thanks i dont want to "do" anything :-( it disgusts me. maybe that is the pnd. feel like i am rejecting my Dh but could happily run off with a good looking stranger. honestly,i would never do that am just confused and the arguing making Dh less attractive

yes i am going to a support group for pnd and on ad's

glad you are getting help and hope the AD's kick in soon, it helps imo.

maybe the 'disgust' is related to the birth trauma? I think there is an association/ org which deals with that they might be able to help

as for the stranger maybe a nice fantasy can get you in the right frame of mind, just a thought
and arguing doesn't help of course, kids bring joy but also a lot of strain sometimes

www.birthtraumaassociation.org.uk/