When did you get back in the “dating game” after being cheated on?

[Mabel1225]

I was with my ex husband for 8 years, married for 3. We have a 7 month old together. To me our relationship was perfect, we rarely argued and got on like a house on fire. He got a new younger female work colleague and that’s when everything fell apart and I found out that he had had an affair. We officially separated 2 months ago.

I’m still incredibly hurt and upset by everything that went down and I feel like I’m really going to struggle to ever trust another man again. If you’ve ever been cheated on, how long did it take for you to move on and start thinking about dating again?

It just feels so unfair that he cheated, he split up our family, yet he gets to be happy and live his new life with his affair partner. Whereas I’m the now lonely broken one.

You've only been separated two months? Tbh I didn't think about dating until my child was 5... not what you will want to hear though (ex left when I was pregnant) I genuinely don't know how others date again so quickly

5 years here and still not ready

I joined dating sites after about 6 months but didn't have another relationship for almost a year. A couple of short term things and have now been with my partner for 2.5 years. My partner had only been split from his ex for 4 months when we met.

You are nowhere near ready for dating, not by light years x

I'm a year on and not ready yet.

About 3 months. Ex and I were together 10 years, he came home from a trip abroad one day and suddenly announced he was leaving me for OW and moved out that day. In some ways I think the break up was easier because he cheated, because I knew then that I didn't want him back!

A couple of months after starting online dating, I met DP on Hinge. We have been together on year now and he is wonderful. I know I can never trust anyone 100% but he is such a big part of my life, it would be a shame to miss out on that.

Four years until I felt like dating anyone, but have not really wanted a full-time relationship since.

Nice to go out for an evening or spend an occasional weekend away, but no desire for anything more serious. I'm not sure I ever will. I can't see any reason to.