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I am fuking fed up now sorry for the language but I can't take it anymore and I can't take my husband's constant whinging and whining about everything. I cooked him steak today and he said I can't eat because he's not well little did I know that he doesn't eat crap and he wants proper food no matter how much effort I try to put in he always bloody complains I'm sick of it I don't want to eat the same shit everyday I want to try different foods but noo my husband does not approve of it because I'm not feeding him or our kids healthy food.its just constant complaints to make me feel bad we have 4 kids I am exhausted they wake me up from 6 in morning till late night I don t get a break what so ever and then I have this man on top complaining that I don't feed anyone properly!!!

It's like a mental torture for me even though I try my best to do everything on time and best I can do he still complains I will go crazy I just want to cry I'm obviously not good enough like how other mothers should be.

If he's not happy let him take over the cooking. Ungrateful git.

Why decide you are not good enough. U should be working as a team

Completely this.

He's very unappreciative I don't know how I can tolerate him I just can't take it anymore it is constant even when I was at my in-laws for a month they all made my life hell you do t give proper food what do you feed them I was called a not good mother from my mother in law brother in law I don't know what to do for him to stop complaining about me.

'Don't speak to me like that'
'Leave my house' to the inlaws, if they insult you.

Tbh though op, leave him. Life's too short.
And get your tubes tied if you are going to stay! Last thing you need is baby number 5.

If you can’t tolerate it; then leave him.

No I don't want to leave him but I know he will not change his nature however I can't tolerate the way he treats me constantly telling me how I need to cook properly like I'm a baby like I don't know how to feed my husband or kids it's starting to piss me off now and I end up swearing at him which is wrong as well. However he doesn't give me mental peace even though I cook he still bloody complains and as for my in-laws I was staying with them and also in a foreign country so I had to tolerate for my kids sake but let's put it that why I will never be going back there.

I was at there house so I had to tolerate we were in foreign country but I cried almost everyday that's how bad they treated me.You can't expect anything from in-laws when your own husband chats crap as well I have to except that my husband can't change I cannot please him but seriously I need to get myself into counselling asap because this toxic cycle of him constantly complaining will ware me down and my anger will keep building I need to do something g about it now.

But op

You cannot change you to fix him.

I absolutely agree councilling is a good idea. Hopefully, to help you feel strong enough to leave him. But, you can't fix a wound with a knife still in it. There's only so much councilling can help you if you remain with him.

If you don't want to leave him but you know he won't change, what exactly are you looking for OP?

Also, please use some punctuation in your posts as they're quite hard to read and break down.

Thing is, if you know he won't change (and he won't), and you don't want to leave, then why bother even getting upset at the situation you are choosing, for whatever reason you are choosing it.

Staying with him is a choice you are making every day. Instead of complaining and getting upset when he acts the way he always acts, remind yourself of that. Remind yourself you always have a choice, and you can change your choice at any time.