Does a drunk mind speak a sober heart?

[Cucumberflo]

Iv been in a relationship for 2 years.

We like to spend our child fee time together having a few drinks. I used to love this time. Recently whenever we have gotten over a bottle of wine between us I have gone right off him.

It’s our night tonight and I’m feeling the same. I just don’t want the hassle of him and his complexities.

When stone cold sober I rarely think of life without him. Starting to worry tipsy me knows something sober me doesn’t?

No, really no. Drunk minds fixate on what is a fleeting annoyance to a reasonable mind. Drunk minds take things and run with them as an expression of upset or stress from quite possibly something completely different.

Maybe it’s a sign that alcohol is a problem.

Absolutely not.

Drunk mind speaks drunk and gibberish.

Tipsy you is unlikely to be a good judge of character and tipsy him may not be as much fun as he thinks he is.

Isn't it better to build a future on the sober versions of both of you?

I don’t believe this completely no, because I’ve definitely said things when drunk that I absolutely did not think when sober! Or sent the odd message that I’ve massively regretted the next day.

Saying that I do think there could be something in it, lots of couples argue when they’ve had a drink because alcohol tends to make us more aggressive and less tolerant. Perhaps you need to step back and look at your relationship and whether something needs to change? Or maybe you’re just not good drinking partners?

Personally when I’ve had a few I talk complete and utter bollocks yet I’m convinced I’m making fantastic earth shattering points that make complete sense.

Sober me shakes my head with the shame

In vino veritas...

Drunk me thinks and talks an awful lot of absolute and complete shit. Hence why I decided to stop drinking!

Drunk me also takes a lot of shite and I rarely drink now and definitely don’t get drunk. I remember my mum once saying to me that you speak your mind when drunk so I must have been thinking like that (can’t remember what it was about) but I had been talking absolute rubbish). Maybe you need to do something else with your spare time than drinking

I’d instead consider that the alcohol is effecting you and causing low mood. I used to love nights out and drinking and was a very happy drunk, but as I got older the drink didn’t suit me any more. It took a while for it to really click but once it did I never went back to regular drinking/getting drunk.

I would say we don’t get hammered. But I save my drinking days until we are child free as does he. I think he is more annoying and I suppose we have the time to have more ‘deep chats’ etc

I absolutely agree tolerance etc is lower with a drink. Just worried my mind is thinking we may jot be compatible and I’m only seeing this after a couple

In vino veritas, true to a point, if you're smashed, not so much.