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will someone please talk to me?

37 replies

mustsleep · 06/04/2008 20:34

have just had a really bad fright i suppose you could say and could do with some one anyone to talk to

dh has just back from drinking at the pub had a massive go at me to the point where he was screaming in my face and pushing me, he scared me, woke up both the kids scared them and wouldn't leave the house

he kept shouting that it was his house i don;t work or pay the mortgage so he could do what he wanted ( i look after the kids all day and work on an evening)

i do not like him to go out as normally he comes back and whilst most people would be just tipsy he is off his face and can hardly stand up normally he is just a bit aggressive but he's really scared me this time, i thought he might actually hit me, i am 5 months pregnant. i threatened to call the police if he oldn;t just go upstairs and sleep it off but that just mad eit worse and he backed me into the corner and wouldn;t let me near the phone he just ept shouting that i was a bitch and he hoped i died

i do not have anyone to talk to as none of my friends live near, eventually he went to the loo and the kids came downstairs with me and i managed to convince him to go to bed he just kept saying he had made a mistake and he was sorry. have just heard him talking upstairs and didn;t want him to wake the kids so went up and he was saying random stuff and his face is covered in blood it was not like that when i left him i dont know what he's done there's blood all over the bed

am quite hormonal anyway but cant stop crying now

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StressTeddy · 06/04/2008 21:29

please don't show him this thread. I really don't think that would be wise
Focus on getting through tonight and taking care of you and your children but I do think you have some tricky decisions to make longer term
Love to you and hope you are ok

MrsThierryHenry · 06/04/2008 21:32

Mustsleep, I've just re-read your original thread. You said that normally when your husband drinks he just gets a bit aggressive - nothing like he's been tonight. What do you mean by this?

mustsleep · 06/04/2008 21:37

just like argumentative, but only when he's had loads to drink not just a couple

dont know what to do really want to bed soon but want to be in the same room as him and cant realy sleep on the sofa as want to be able to hear the los

wonder if i cold climb into bed with ds without wking him

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MascaraOHara · 06/04/2008 21:40

take a picture of him and show it to him in the morning and make him scrub his own piss up in the morning.

personally he sounds like amilder version of my dd's father. her got progressively worse and last I heard he'd beat up his pregnant girlfriend putting her in hospital with a couple of cracked ribs as well as some other damage.

when I was pregnant, I ended up sleeping on the floor and all sorts due to behaviour like that.

MrsThierryHenry · 06/04/2008 21:41

Okay, just as long as he's not made you feel inferior/ anxious/ frightened in the past. These are important warning signs of possible (I emphasise possible) future violent behaviour, that's all. Just want to make sure you're okay in the long term!

Are you sure about sleeping with him? Didn't you say there was blood on the sheets?

By the way his bloody face and bedsheets in the morning will probably give him pause for thought and so may well help you with starting your discussion about the night's events.

Best of luck, hon. xx

MrsThierryHenry · 06/04/2008 21:43

God, Mascara. How did you cope? I suppose you still have contact with him, being the father of your dd? Well done for getting out before it got bad. That poor other girlfriend, though.

mustsleep · 06/04/2008 21:44

think i will try to bunk in with ds as don;t want to be covered in blood or piss

and we will be speaking about this in the morning

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MascaraOHara · 06/04/2008 21:44

No, I have no contact with him, he doesn't have a relationship with my dd. thankfully.

MrsThierryHenry · 08/04/2008 05:28

Hi mustsleep - how'd it go?

mustsleep · 08/04/2008 09:51

hi it's all ok

dh woke at 3 in the morning came downstairs asking what had happened as he was covered in blood, and i told him

he was really sorry said he wouldn;t drink again without being prompted, think he shocked himself esp when e saw there was blood everywhere

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lizziemun · 08/04/2008 10:39

I didn't post earlier as i didn't know what to add to what everyone else had already said.

I glad he has frighten/shocked himself into not going down the drinking path again.

MrsThierryHenry · 08/04/2008 14:35

I'm really glad it's okay, and I hope you feel at peace about the whole thing.

Fingers crossed that things stay this way from now on!

xxx(sending you good vibes)xxx

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