2 years ago now me and my partner seperated for 6 months. I was pretty heartbroken and attended therapy. I had alot to cope with that year.
I know a woman that i met through a school friend. We met up once for dinner after our babies were born and ended up at 1 or 2 events together. We spoke alot on fb and stuff over the course of 16 years. She was alright. Abit nosy but harmless. I was kind to her. I sold her a big bag of baby clothes for £10 and she only had £8 on her. It didnt matter. I have given her £5 twice when she couldn't afford her dd school dinner and i lent her £30 on 3 occasions which she paid back. I noticed she copied me alot with stuff for the kids. But again didnt think badly.
Back in 2022 she got the council house next to my ex. She did not know him. I did talk to her about our split and relationship issues. She started to take pics of him if she saw him in the street and sent me them. I told her i didnt want to see. She then claimed hed let the door go in the shop to almost slam it on her.
A few months later she started making comments on me still having a mortgage with my first partner. I had to tell her to back off and keep out of it as it was finanically the only option at the time. She got spiteful and i had to block her number
A week later i find out she has contacted my ex partner. Shes messaged him on fb to ask him if im horrible to everyone. I looked on her fb page and my ex was now putting hearts under her photos and there was some banter and flirting on both pages. For 2 months i tortured myself looking. Shaking and full of pain not knowing what was going on.
I then found out through my exes friend shed sent nude pictures randomly and was constantly asking for money and fags. My ex sent her £50 as he felt sorry for her children. She managed to get my email and boasted hed spoilt her with a takeaway etc. I did my best to ignore and respond firmly when needed. She then sent me a nasty email saying he wont say anything bad about you why do you have such a hold on him!!
A few weeks later my ex got in touch. Hed lost his dad. He showed messages proving hed told her he wouldnt slag me off. He showed me pictures shed sent crying like she had sent to me to get attention and money. He said he had walked down to her house one night as she had begged for a vape (what the heck) and he said she was in a nightie trying to get him inside for a coffee and sex. He declined apparently.
Anyway we did get back together and its been 2 years nearly and im still struggling with the above. I cant seem to let go and i want to.