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Why does my new...dalliance with my ex boss feel so wrong

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RocketQueen19 · 04/06/2024 16:30

Hi,

I have very recently found myself engaging in mild/harmless flirtatious banter with my ex boss, we are both separated and he does not work at my company any more, but when he did he was my direct boss, responsible for me ETC ETC, when he was my boss I never looked at him like that at all probably because i was really young when he was my boss ( he's about 12 years older than me) but I am talking 10 years ago, I'm nearly 30 now , but we recently started a bit of harmless banter/flirting through private social media ETC, which out of nowhere on both parts started to get very intense, i started to see him in a completely different light and quite frankly become very turned on by it all.... we now meet up and have wild s##

The whole thing feels so wrong, I insist on meeting up ( when we go for drinks etc.) out of the area as the company I still work for, where I have a lot of colleagues and friends from, I would feel mortified if people found out, and he is respectful of this and wants to protect me from gossip, as he works elsewhere now so doesn't matter to him, which is sweet, but still..... why do I feel like I'm being really naughty lol

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rubyslippers · 04/06/2024 16:32

How long have you both been separated?
if you’re hiding it I bet it’s not long which is why it feels “naughty”
and you can write sex in full on this website

Rania78 · 04/06/2024 16:34

No idea. You are doing absolutely nothing wrong. Two adults, separated, who don’t work together anymore and like each other.
Enjoy darling. It may be short term, it may prove a long term relationship. And what is the problem with people finding out? 1. you are doing nothing wrong 2. who cares about gossip anyway!only losers gossip.

Everythingiscalmfornow · 04/06/2024 17:36

On the one hand you are saying it feels "naughty" but on the other the whole tone of your post indicates you are really enjoying the situation.
Don't be a hypocrite: either enjoy the situation or else if you really have doubts about it cool the contact.

RocketQueen19 · 04/06/2024 19:32

rubyslippers · 04/06/2024 16:32

How long have you both been separated?
if you’re hiding it I bet it’s not long which is why it feels “naughty”
and you can write sex in full on this website

We have both been separated a considerably long time, it's the ex boss thing that's making it feel wrong

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