Struggling with being happier post break up

[Iggityziggety]

In the long process of separating from my DD's dad, things are moving forward with selling the house and moving on. I'm really sad about the whole thing but also really looking forward to getting him out of my day to day life as he's emotionally abusive, as well as has been occasionally physically abusive towards me. He isn't very nice to DD a lot of the time either and will ignore or dismiss her needs if they inconvenience him, he has no patience with her.
I feel really guilty about looking forward to being properly separate though - I know DD will be devastated, confused and very sad, and I feel like I'm prioritising my happiness over hers, even though the current situation also upsets her and isn't good for her.
Has anyone else felt like this on separating?

Separating from a man who is an awful parent to his daughter and abusive and violent towards her mother is prioritising your daughter's happiness as well as your own.

I don't have children but I can recognise what you are saying - the whole split, should I / shouldn't I is a ball ache BUT the future is fabulous - free, a clean slate, simple, I have control, I don't have that weight around my neck anymore.

You never know as well, but your daughter may think she will miss him but in actuality she may blossom when her day is free of feeling sad over examples of where she doesn't matter to someone she loves.....

I know that deep down. It just doesn't feel like it when I see how happy she is with him, and how settled she is in her current set up. But I guess that's all she knows.

You're grieving for what should have been and that's natural .

I think the emotional harm he's doing your dd will get worse if you stay.

It's what this environment and the way he treats her is teaching her about men, relationships and family, and what it will do to her self-esteem. What sort of partner will she end up with, if this is her normal?

In the short term, it will be hard and won't solve all problems, but in the long term you're giving her a better shot in life.

Thank you all.. Feel a bit better now. Short term pain for hopefully long term gain.

I've been there, it gets harder before it gets easier but it's so worth it.
When you're in your own home with no one judging you or not walking on egg shells

Having a mother free from emotional abuse is the best thing you can do for her. It really is in her best interests to do this, even if she is happy with him now. She'll grow up without being treated poorly in a relationship being something that becomes normalised around her. She'll have a mother who is mentally free of this torment and stronger for it.

You are acting in her best interests.