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Bad mouthing me to child

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Youstealmysunshine · 02/06/2024 21:35

I'm at a loss what to do; my DP regularly bad mouths me to our child.
He's told our DS (5) several times that mummy is an angry person, a horrible person, nasty to daddy, oh and I'm a psychopath.
The psychopath comment was because I was humming.
The nasty etc is usually because I've questioned him about something.
For instance, he tells me I'm nasty and a horrible person because I say he shouldn't be spending every other weekend staying at a family members house/going out drinking when we have a child together.
I've had our child all weekend, so he's had 3 full days to himself and he's already moaning about having to get up with our child tomorrow despite a weekend of lie ins (he will have to get up as I take other child to school and car has an MOT early).

This eve he came back and spent 45 mins with our son at my request. Between 8pm and 8.40pm he fed him and Ice lolly, Ice cream and sweets. He was bouncing around the living room. I asked why he had fed him that just before bed and he said it didn't matter. I said it was too much rubbish, close to bed time and he said to go away. Then called out to our son the other side of the living room to say that mummy is nasty and being horrible to daddy, then told me to get out of the living room and shut the door on me!

OP posts:
category12 · 03/06/2024 19:17

You or your key worker would inform the police that you and dc were safe and not absconding, I mean.

Youstealmysunshine · 03/06/2024 19:38

But it's my word against his. He's in a position of power and told everyone I'm mentally ill.

OP posts:
category12 · 03/06/2024 20:04

It's not uncommon for abusive types to say that sort of thing, but domestic abuse services would believe you and help you navigate issues.

It's not like Mr Rochester being able to lock you in an attic.

madameparis · 03/06/2024 20:06

He is an awful bully. That is all there is to say.

abouttoturn50 · 03/06/2024 22:35

Youstealmysunshine · 03/06/2024 19:38

But it's my word against his. He's in a position of power and told everyone I'm mentally ill.

Can you get voice recordings of his abuse?

Not only is he abusing you he's also teaching your DS to abuse you too, he will grow up thinking it's normal to treat women that way!

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