What do you talk about?

[36plus3]

Dh and I regularly sit in silence for hours on end. I love peace and quiet but it does feel a bit weird I guess. Together 13 years. Conversations are the kids, money, the kids day to day. Occasional general election chat but is this normal for 13 years in, three kids deep and run of the mill family boredom?

To avoid drip feeding : no shared hobbies/ interests - never have done!

genuinely don't know.. i used to get talked at. hence him being my ExH

We talk about our jobs and problems/successes in those. Also, shared hobby, weekend plans, wedding plans, ohr pets, things we have seen on TV etc. Equally, we can ho hours in different parts of the house doing different things. It's nothing ground breaking but it's nice.

We talk about all sorts:
Our toddler
Our house
Plans for the future
Money
Goals
Our friends
Our jobs
Memories of past holidays/events
TV
Books
Current affairs
Fears
Problems
Worries

And the conversation we have most and which we hate.... what are we having for meals this week 😫

12 years together

We get a newspaper every day and talk about stuff in that, also do the crossword . This usually sparks a conversation about something related. We both have different hobbies and talk about those. The garden, house, children and day to day observations are widely discussed as well.

Yesterday we had a chat about which companies grew out of siblings falling out big time.

One of us will read something and that just leads to organic conversation with many many tangents

Between us we are interested in a lot of stuff, new scientific research comes up a lot.
Football, but not the basic stuff usually the financial and society side.
Quite a bit of philosophy.

There's always new stuff to talk about. Well if you keep up to date with your interests.

Family and friends, politics/current affairs, sport, the house and DC and day to day planning, things we want to read/see/watch, public transport woes, what we did that day. DH is very talkative and I am too, we chat for hours about news events, for example.

We also sit in silence both reading or tidying up/doing housework or life admin. paperwork and e-mails.

We talk about films, books, music, politics, the dc, our extended families, our hobbies, our plans for days out and holidays, work etc. We also play board games, do cryptic crosswords together etc. We have quite a lot of interests in common, plus of course some that we don't share. I can't imagine being with someone who didn't share any of my interests tbh. We also did the same job (teaching) for decades, but not any more. So we still talk a lot about that.

Can we swap? I miss the peace and quiet :)

We (it's mostly me doing the talking) talk about -

Our grandchildren
Our adult children and their partners
Our neighbours/friends
The house & garden
What meals we're going to have (!)
Our childhoods/parents (all gone now)
Politics, occasionally
The education system, sometimes
Tv/films
Our (now declining a bit) health.

In our 60s, been married 44 years

We talk about the kids, plans like days out/holidays, parents/family, friends and what they're up to, the election, local stuff going on, hobbies (his/mine/dc/shared). On our walk this afternoon we talked about the wildlife and how the landscape had changed since we were last there (winter). All sorts of stuff really.

But companiable silence is underrated imo. It's nice to just be with each other and not have to fill every moment with chat.

Our pension funds
Politics
Music
Theatre
What we are reading
Our work
The garden
Holidays
The adult DC
Our elderly mothers
The meaning of life
He moans about untidiness; I moan about the laundry

35 years in.

I think this depends on how big your own interests are and what you've got to talk about as a person. My brother and SIL don't seem to talk about much other than drama in their friend group, the DC , things that need doing around the house/what's for dinner etc, but neither really has any hobbies, they don't read, they don't keep up with current affairs/the news, they just listen to generic commercial radio, so no new bands they've heard, they do watch the soaps and talk about those.

DH and I talk a lot about politics, art, DH is really into finding new music and brings me things he thinks I'd like, we talk about the books we're reading, podcasts we've listened to, what's going on in hobbies (his more artistic, mine volunteering based) , I tend to keep up with what's on locally so will talk about upcoming theatre shows, events etc to see which ones we're both interested in going to. Also the generic DC/household stuff. We were friends for a long time because we have overlapping interests and would talk about random things for a long time before we were a couple.

DH and I talk all the time.
About our goals and dreams
Holidays and where to choose to go to
About my DC
About cricket which we both love
About our day
About what to have for dinner
About going out together
About foster son's hobbies and who is driving him about
About our friends who is going where etc
Books/TV programmes we watch together.
Gifts for birthdays/Xmas for family
Family events
And loads of random other things

Parents, child, dog, elderly parents, work, mates, holidays, garden, house.
Music, books, films.

Don’t think it matters, as long as you’re on the same page with it. Some people feel a need to be chatty, others don’t. I’m the former, my exH was the latter. I realised at some point there would be literally no conversation unless I instigated it.
It was one of many contributing factors to our divorce.

Same as above. House. Investments. Work. TV. Current affairs. The kids.

Also we talk about his dysfunctional family a lot too

We can be quiet though particularly when eating. Or in the car. My sisters family all talk loudly and all over each other. Because we are a smaller family (2 kids compared to 4) we seem a bit meek in comparison!

The cat. Always the cat.

I don't think there's a right or wrong answer.
OH has come home from work, we've briefly chatted about his work and my day. Eaten dinner together - talked about marks and spencer food been yummy.
Now I'm reading (something they never do).and he's playing playstation (something I never do)
Companionable silence, and its lovely!

What the kids are doing, funny things they’ve said, what they’re learning, work, family, past and future holidays, what we would do if we won the lotto, money, food, we talk about food a lot 🤣 what to do at the weekend, fashion, getting fit, what the neighbours are doing, weather, the news,the house, plants, the garden, the dog shit that keeps appearing on the pavement down our street, old school music, films, funny videos, reminiscing days gone by, etc
We talk about anything & everything. Sometimes it’s silly nonsense, sometimes it’s serious stuff. Usually interrupted by our 4 year old and our toddler 😆
20 years together!

Everything and anything.

Kids, animals, family and friends, work, our hobbies, sport, things from the past, music, films and tv, what we’ve eaten, what we fancy eating, what we’ve seen on SM, things in the news, future plans, a lot of silly stuff too.

We’re comfortable sitting in silence though, we both appreciate peace and quiet.

I love silence...I could go forever not talking I think. My oh loves a natter and I worry that I am vacant quite allot. Sometimes we seem to get going on something good ...mostly I enjoy silence