Paranoid husband is cheating/planning to

[Rosie3417]

Hi,
Just looking for some opinions on this.

For a while I've had this gut feeling that my husband has been cheating on me. He's been away for work and we have been having problems for a while.
He's been very off with me since he came back and said it's because we might be splitting and he feels he's protecting himself but wants to see if we can work it out.

I know it's wrong but I had a look on his search history and found multiple hire cat searches aswell as a hotel search for a random town about 3 hours away.

He says he was looking at hire cars because he wanted to know how much they cost (if we split I would move back home with the kids and car and he would have to visit to see them because of his job)

He said that the hotels just popped up on the website when he was searching for cars.

Does this sound true? Has anyone had hotels pop up when searching for hire cars?

I have tried looking at cars aswell to see but no pop ups for me...

What do you all think?

He's making me feel crazy

That was meant to read hire car, not hire cat🙄

If you're making plans because you may be splitting does it really matter?

Stop searching his history it is controlling, you are paranoid sure he may be cheating or about to but being neurotic won't change that, just speak to him

As far as I’m aware pop up adverts don’t show as ‘searched for’. Sounds a bit BS to me. I’m a big believer is trusting intuition. Does the bit about trying to work things out ring true? Has he done literally anything to improve your relationship? Had he even had a conversation with you about how he feels? Or has he just checked out?

Were not making plans to split. We've been having a tough time and are seeing how things go.
I checked because I have a gut feeling and how weird he's being
Have never felt this before. I'm aware it's an invasion of privacy but I don't want to be cheated on and not know

Regardless of cheating or not, if he's looking at hire cars because you might split - he has no intention of working it out. His search history should include "how to save a relationship" not hotels.

Only things you actively search show on your search history, even if it's the recently visited sites you're looking at, pop ups don't appear on it. He had to actually visit a page for a hotel at X destination for it to be there.

Yes, I agree.
I just don't know why he'd say he wants to work it out if he doesn't.
I don't know what to do

It was a cheerful moment though. Sorry OP, sounds tough.

I think you should let him get on with whatever he is up to. You can't control what he does. It sounds as though he is checking out of the relationship.
I think you should look at what YOU want from the future and set about setting yourself free from him and make a new life for yourself. I know that is easy for an outsider to say and hard for you to do. But worrying about his behaviour when he is showing no inclination to work on your relationship and is already making plans to split is only causing you unhappiness. Much better for you to take the initiative.

Maybe he doesn't know what to do either.