Self blame

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It's now 2 months since my ex left me. We'd been together a year, he was controlling and my mental health was deteriorating for the last 3 months because I'd come off my antidepressants. He didn't even know I was on them as wouldn't have approved. I'm now back on them, having therapy and in a much better place but I can't shake this feeling of regret - that if I'd been different we would have lasted.

Any tips on how to move on?

If u read this back.OP hopefully u will clearly see the reason why you did not last. U said he was controlling, not that u were controlling. If it had been u I could understand the feeling of guilt. Remember u didn't last for a reason. You also say that u are making improvement through therapy. Think about u. Put urself first. Just 'be', be kind to yourself. Time will help.

If u have any contact at all with him I would cut it immediately.

No contact with him, regular contact with his mum who is lovely and we don't discuss her son at all. No I wasn't controlling, but he wore me away. I lost myself in the relationship and that's what I blame myself for. If I'd been stronger etc.