Why is bf acting this way?

[xoxogossipgal]

4 years relationship, stable, minimal arguments, no drama, no games, fairly mature (we’re not perfect).

went to a bar for food and drinks tonight. Bf left me to take a call outside but had direct view of me. I stood in a corner, people watching and watching the flat screen tv there. I’m a bit socially awkward. This guy next to me started a conversation with me, all innocent- Pleasant introduction, where you from, occupation..etc. and he shook my hand nice to meet you and all. I wore a dress and heels but all very conservative and nothing revealing/m nor flirtatious to make him think I’m like that. I’m never like that anyway. Bf came back in, annoyed and upset (Look on his face, he didn’t say he was). The guy then asked if he was my bf, I said yeh. At this point, that’s when I realised he might have talked to me with a bit more intention but nonetheless innocent and pleasant.

bf quiet on the whole way home and gamed when got home, didn’t talk to me. i feel awkward and just went to bed.

I think bf is being unreasonable. Had a small conversation, end of story. All innocent. Bf mentioned to me why I didn’t say I have a bf. I’m like I did when he asked but I’m not gonna say I have a bf in the middle of the conversation when I suspect it was a friendly conversation people have at a bar. Plus I’m socially awkward so to have someone talk to me when I’m standing in the corner myself not knowing what to do/ how to act takes the stress away slightly.

m should I talk to bf once he’s calmed down? Or just leave it. ?

Do you think he is being unreasonable?

Men often don't realise the conditioning/social pressure women can be under to "be nice and polite" to strange men and not risk upsetting them.
You don't know how he'd react to just blurting out "my boyfriend's over there", although I might have subtly mentioned it...
You did nothing wrong - hope he gets over it asap. What would he have done? Assumed a girl making conversation was trying it on?

You did absolutely nothing wrong your bf is being a childish dick.

So you talked to a man in a bar for a few minutes, while he was leaving you alone to take a call. Wow. You are a terrible person.

not.

he is being a wanker.

He is being unreasonable for sulking and not communicating as an adult.
You are being unreasonable for expecting stranger man to talk with you in a bar interested in being friend with you and not in romantic way.

Your bf is being jealous and controlling and completely unreasonable. Why wouldn’t a guy chat you up if he leaves you standing in a bar on your own? Why would that justify him being so off with you? ( It doesn’t. )He needs to get a grip. With the behaviour he’s showing you how insecure he is and trying to make sure you never talk to a guy again.
Don't stand for that shit OP.

Strongly recommend 2 things OP.

1. You do not apologise for anything you did here.
2. You tell him he needs to think about how he treats you when his ego is bruised because his behaviour is unacceptable.

Just because you’ve been together 4 yrs doesn’t mean he owns you. You need to knock this stuff on the head otherwise it will keep happening if he thinks he can just put you in a little box.

Your boyfriend is controlling and jealous, a big red glag.
Do NOT apologise.
Is this a regular occurrence?
His sulk and strop is not acceptable.
I would be having a rethink and be honest with yourself if there is pattern.
If there is, dump him.

Yep I agree with the others, he’s being controlling and jealous. He needs to accept that sometimes you might, shock horror, talk to a man, and if he can’t handle that, he needs therapy.