Miserable Husband

[Jessiep23]

I have been with my husband for 15 years we have 2 children together.

My eldest has just been diagnosed with autism and ADHD so we are negotiating this new territory as he has become much more challenging in his behaviour over the last year.

My issue is actually my husband, he is extremely snappy, rude, short tempered, irritable and stressy. He’s half glass empty about anything, negative and generally a misery to be around.

I think since my sons diagnosis it has become apparent he is likely on the spectrum too.

I feel like I am unable to say anything to him now without it annoying him, the kids can’t do anything without it annoying him.

He can’t go anywhere without being irritated be it traffic, queues other people.

He’s actually just getting on my nerves now.

He used to be the life and soul of the party we used to have such a laugh together, we was always such a strong couple, we have been through a lot over the years and have always come out of it but now his attitude and outlook on life is just miserable.

I have asked him if he wants to leave but he said he doesn’t.

I’m not sure what the point of this post is but has anyone been through similar. Have we just been through so much that maybe this is it for us now?

You asked him if he wants to leave, but do you want him to leave? You do get a say.

No I don’t want him to leave, but this situation is not sustainable for much longer.

I could have written this myself! This is my husband to a T and my daughter has been diagnosed with autism. I honestly don't know what the answer is, but just know you are not alone! I feel like I'm walking on eggshells most of the time, not knowing what mood he is. He is so negative and grumpy and the kids are really picking up on it.

Honestly you are describing my ex. We were together 17 years with 2 kids. He was misery personified. Everyone was against him, bad things only happened to him, he had every ailment under the sun..... the list was endless. Every day I was chipped away by his negativity. Funnily enough, he told me a few months ago he was being tested for autism. I don't believe he has autism, he's just a miserable C U next tuesday.

Surely if your h used to be the life and soul of the party, and now he's grumpy, you can't blame autism for it? Unless he was masking 24/7 for years? Unlikely.

You get to decide whether to end the relationship too.