Feel like I have regressed since my breakup?

[prettyinpink23x]

Hi all,

I am 26. I was with my boyfriend for 7 years, first love, lost our virginity to each other etc. he moved away for work and fell out of love with me. We broke up in December. I thought I was doing ok but feel like I have regressed massively. I am really reliant on my parents. My emotional stability is out the window, basic tasks seem really hard and i am scatter brained. I was really into fitness/career progression and was really proud of myself this time last year and now I feel that I am regressing. My self esteem is on the floor and I can’t imagine improving myself again and having a good life ahead. I know I am a burden to people and not very nice to be around and I am self sabotaging.

How do I get myself back on track and start moving forward? I feel like I have lost all of my progress and purpose.

It’s a big shock and a massive change - the last time you were single you were very young. Be kind to yourself and give yourself time. Have you had any therapy/counselling? Maybe you need a new hobby or group outside of work? Something new with new people.

Thankyou I feel like it has all just hit me recently and all of my friends are in long term relationships and moving in together I am finding it a lonely time. I have tried therapy a little and I think I do probably need new hobbies

Well, statistically around half of your friends will split up from their current partners down the line, and they’ll have to cope then too. Not being negative, just realistic! Don’t compare yourself. Plus you’re still very young! Focus on self care, doing things you love, staying healthy, and hone in on a dream/new passion and start making moves towards it.

Thankyou I will, I appreciate your kindness.

My emotional stability is out the window, basic tasks seem really hard and i am scatter brained.
Sounds like grief to me. You have lost your hopes, your dreams, your future, your sense of self since your partner has gone and now you are floundering. Grieve for what you have lost, accept it won't come back and you should be able to move on. You will find new hopes, new dreams, a new future but you need to let the old ones go first. Most of all be kind to yourself and give yourself time to stabilise

@prettyinpink23x sending hugs, break ups are horrible but you will get over it, move on and flourish. I hope you have plenty of support IRL. invest in yourself.
It will all work out in time.