Husbands sister is recently divorced. He went over there for the weekend last weekend and done all the gardening and trimmed the hedges etc etc. when he is at home at our house on the weekends he usually sleeps in and begrudges doing any gardening, often jokes around and says it’s a women’s job. When I asked him why his sister hasn’t done it (simply because that’s how he talks to me, otherwise I would not have a issue with it at all) he says well she doesn’t have a chance.
I feel like in his family being the only male the females put a lot Of pressure on him to be “the man” which is fine, if he acted that way happily at home too.
Recently, his mother got into a disagreement with his new step mum. His mum was being really rude to the step mum infront of everyone and it was really uncomfortable. luckily, my husband called them both over and told his mum to apologise. Well, this didn’t go down well. When we next saw her, she was screaming and crying, saying that he should of defended her, supported her, and that she has always defending and supported him even when he has been wrong (is that a good mum?) she was crying and saying that he thought of himself and not her (he was trying to keep the peace?!) and that if he doesn’t have anything nice to say then he shouldn’t say anything at all (all he done was tell him mum to stop being out of order, clearly she was embarrassed) she has called us up multiple times crying saying she can’t believe he didn’t back her up, that she should be his number one over the other step mum, that now this is between him and her, and he needs to “validate her feelings” because he keeps telling her she was wrong and out of order. I find this really uncomfortable, she’s even ignored him at a family party because he done this, like refused to look at him, and he kept chasing her saying mum what’s wrong?! Etc.