Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Should I "dump" this so called "friend"

15 replies

rosegarden95 · 01/06/2024 17:48

Last year I met a girl from a fb group to make friends.. yes I know to some that is strange. Anyway it's put me off making friends online. We would meet probably once a month, it was her always insisting to meet for a coffee and she is local so I said ok even though every time before we would meet I would actually dread meeting her. God knows what was going through my head. Anyway every time, she would just talk about herself, she is very overwhelming whereas I'm just chilled and laid back. A few months ago, I told her I was pregnant and she barely had anything to say. A few months later she said to me she is pregnant with twins and only talks about herself and never asks about me and how my pregnancy is going. The other day she messaged me saying she had booked her maternity photos and that was it, a random out of the blue message, no how are you? Have you booked any photos? I find her very selfish and in fact I did not even reply. She also did not wish me a happy birthday but proceeded to post a happy birthday message regarding another friend on the same day as mine. I am so tempted just to block her and move on with my life. What is everyone's thoughts? I don't like confrontation.. either I block her or I won't speak with her again dramatic as that sounds

OP posts:
clarepetal · 01/06/2024 18:29

Yes. She sounds awful.

User1979289 · 01/06/2024 18:42

Some people need friends due to life changes/moving. Others because they are a nightmare! Move on. Find new friends.

Cupcake333333 · 01/06/2024 18:45

Op I don't think you need to block this person, just shut them out your head mentally. Its clear there's no friendship. Leave them to it. Just keep it civil. Small talk and that's it. Defo don't make any plans to see them.

loropianalover · 01/06/2024 18:52

She’s not your friend and if she didn’t wish you happy birthday, I don’t think she considers herself to be your friend either.

It doesn’t sound like you speak often any more anyway? mute her posts from your feed if she winds you up.

rosegarden95 · 01/06/2024 18:53

I don't really want her seeing my posts, I'm thinking to delete her. Is that excessive?

OP posts:
Mary46 · 01/06/2024 18:56

Yes keep it vague if she wants to meet. Op I dont want negative friends or flaky people now life is hard enough!!

rosegarden95 · 01/06/2024 19:13

Cupcake333333 · 01/06/2024 18:45

Op I don't think you need to block this person, just shut them out your head mentally. Its clear there's no friendship. Leave them to it. Just keep it civil. Small talk and that's it. Defo don't make any plans to see them.

Instead of blocking, should I delete? I don't like the idea of her viewing my pictures

OP posts:
Cupcake333333 · 01/06/2024 19:15

rosegarden95 · 01/06/2024 18:53

I don't really want her seeing my posts, I'm thinking to delete her. Is that excessive?

Yes it is excessive (but thats my opinion and doesnt mean you're wrong) unless there's a specific reason that is worrying you I don't think you need to block her, she's not a danger to you is she? but that said if you feel that strongly about it then you don't need permission or validation. Just do it , its what sits right with you not us.

Cupcake333333 · 01/06/2024 19:36

rosegarden95 · 01/06/2024 19:13

Instead of blocking, should I delete? I don't like the idea of her viewing my pictures

Op you really want to do this I can see. And I hear you. Go ahead and delete her. I actually think you should now because I can see this is bothering you

badhappenings · 01/06/2024 20:10

Delete her.
She sounds like I want to give you grief material and not friendship material.
You don't owe her anything.

NippyCrab · 01/06/2024 20:36

If deleting her is making you stressed change the friendship on FB to restricted. This means she can't see your posts.

Cimone · 01/06/2024 20:47

People who don't want to deal with confrontation should not have children. Why? Because you are supposed to be their protector, their advocate, their voice. And if you can't even speak up about some cow getting on your nerves and being obnoxious, how would you speak up to someone bullying your child, a teacher mistreating your child, a babysitter abusing your child, etc.?

Find your voice madam and do it NOW. Tell that heffa that you are tired of her selfishness and do not wish to continue associating with her because you get absolutely nothing out of the relationship. Wish her a nice life and block her. You MUST make yourself do this and stop running away.

Mystro202 · 01/06/2024 20:53

As a pp said I would restrict her, you can do that by clicking on her profile and where it says "friends" (grey box) click and edit friend list to restricted. She will only see things that are public such as your cover photo. You can also unfollow her and you won't see her posts unless you click on her page.

yousexybugger · 02/06/2024 07:23

Well, my first thought is that I would just delete her. I'm completely out of patience with self obsessed monologuers for certain reasons so wouldn't care to spare her feelings by keeping her on as a FB friend with reduced access. You joined the group to make friends (not strange at all) not find people you don't like.

However, if you joined because you're looking to build your social network (new area, bit isolated for whatever reason) then I would hang fire and do as others say.

No need to keep seeing her or replying regularly, just let things drift. If she disappears from your FB then fine but since you're going through the same life event, could be a start in network building. You don't have to see eye to eye with every local acquaintance, she can just be someone neutral you know in the area. Not a friend but a familiar face.

ThatDenimZebra · 02/06/2024 09:17

OP I would let this friendship go. It sounds like she isn't being much of a friend to you at all.

Seems as if she wants someone to be friends with just to be able to talk about herself but not have to actually reciprocate the friendship.

Free yourself from this. There's people out there who'd love to be your friend and who actually want a true friendship that goes both ways and is supportive.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread