been with my husband 40 years, first and only BF.
Been becoming increasingly concerned for various reasons which would take too long to tell you, that something occurred in 2015 with 27 year old woman when he was 48.
I have been looking at her recent flirting with him and I felt it’s mutual. There’s a vibe. He has admitted recently that he knows she fancies him and he ‘did’ fancy her ‘a bit’ back in 2015 when their paths crossed.
I feel like I’m in a threesome. She is now married to his best mate.
Best mate appears oblivious to her flirting and continues contact with my husband as normal.
My husband likes many of her instagram photos on her photgrapher husband’s page. Sometimes with more than one account. I did check those accounts but couldn’t find any messaging.
I don’t want to make this long but basically I have been digging about her and him for a while, just letting him know I suspect.
He’s been being super nice since christmas when I accused him of being a liar and a cheat (for various reasons). It did not get resolved due to family coming to stay.
The other day I just came out with it because I can’t stop the thoughts, now they’re there. It’s so upsetting. He looked so handsome back then I was looking at photos of him.
I said ‘are you sure nothing was going on with you and …. back in 2015?'
I was called nuts, crazy, his eyes were blazing, he said why don’t you like her I thought you liked her.
I left it there as he is intimidating.
He left it about 10 mins then came into another room I was in, and shut the door. He likes doing that. So you can’t walk off.
He said that our eldest son doesn’t have his teeth or the same legs as him and was it (his mate’s) son? I said well that’s not possible is it I’ve never been with anyone else. He’s obviously your son. We have 4 children TOGETHER.
Then he said he’d had genital warts 4 years ago where had I been? I said well that’s not possible either is it, just no. You’re the only person I’ve been with. He did cheat on me in uni because as he put it recently he did regret it but I was ’needy’ and he picked them up then. I found this out in a row when I was 36 with 4 kids.
He rubbished my own family, uses them as a weapon to devalue me. Said I trapped him, that we all do this to the men.
Then he said he was going out mountain biking and not to worry he would not be going to …. house to fuck her. He said I should call round to ask her and what an idiot I would look.
and stormed off.
High stakes, It’s his best friend, who clearly doesn’t know and doesn’t appear to notice the flirting. Would she lie too, she’d have been showing her face at our house for 9 years and we went to their wedding? Is she just looking for attention?
Have I lost the plot?
Is he projecting?