What does he want?

[Barbie2024]

Hi everyone. I posted on here before re this.

So I matched with a guy and took it to Snapchat. Not met before.

snapped a few times a week. Surface level chat like enjoy your holiday, photos of work, photos of the view/ nice weather. Nothing inappropriate or nudes at all.

but, he sometimes ignores my questions and doesn’t talk much, just snaps (ie photos). So I posted on mumsnet and took everyone’s advice to not engage and ignore because i felt like he’s playing games, running hot and cold. He’s 30,single dad so I thought he’d be more mature.

so after your advice, I ignore him for few days then he initiated a snap (photo). Then got talking for a bit and coffee came up and I casually said fancy coffee sometime? He didn’t reply. Then after a few hours, snapped me a photo of a nice view last evening without answering the question.

I ignored his snap last night because I’m like asked you to coffee but you didn’t reply so I took that as a rejection. I went for a long swim and made peace with it after work- life is all good!

Then he snapped me again this morning with videos of nice grass/ lake views. I’m like what now..? Gonna ignore that too and forget about him.

but I just don’t get what’s going on.. what does he want from me? What do you guys think? I find it really pointless snapping without a goal.

He's farming for women, just posting to dozens.

Does it matter? Move on. Why waste precious energy on people like this.

I would find it very childish and frustrating trying to communicate as an adult with pictures? He sounds like a knob tbh move on.

I know I’m old and probably out of touch but what is ‘snapped’

Never heard of taking the chat to snap, you are better off with whattsapp. I'd take snap as a bad sign as it could well be chosen as it all disappears so no trail for a partner to find. You came across a 'not so single' Dad IMO, next!

I would imagine he’s just sending the snaps out to multiple people tbh and not directly attempting to chat with you

Just unfriend or block him, or however it works on Snap. I don't use it myself- I'm too old 😂

Do adults really use Snapchat to have conversations? I thought it was a teen thing.

Block and move on….he’s a time waster

@SamW98 I think it more for sending photos that disappear after a short time. That may understand but I could be wrong. The youngster seem really into it.

Ooo I see, I get it now! I think likely that

I don’t use it, but because he ‘communicates’ that way, I had to reactivate my account when we first started chatting.

but yeah from his profile photos, it would se he and his friends use Snapchat a lot apparently

I’m tempted to call him out (in the nicest possible way for closure in a way… silly I know then block but I’m resisting it because I’m annoyed.

im gonna wait before blocking in case I say something like get a grip, grow up, make good use of your time haha😅😂

oh for goodness sake, stop wasting your time, move on.

there are plenty of men out there, pick one of them.

life is too short for all this.

I really don't think you should say anything.

It doesn't sound like you had much of a thing. Didn't meet up or even engage in much conversation, so I think saying something would make you look a bit needy, or like he's really affected you. I think you should just block now and move on. He's not worth taking up any more of your mental energy.

You need closure on some random dude you’ve known for five minutes not engaging with you on Snapchat? Come on OP. Where is your self respect? Life is hard enough as it is, don’t make it harder for yourself.

Block

You right, thanks everyone!

Can't believe that. IF I was doing that, as soon as someone bit and offered to meet I would jump at it.

I would say, more of a fantasist, likes the attention, probably married

There’s a reason he only communicates to you via Snapchat. Sounds like he’s sending these images to multiple people. IMO if he’s on snap and that’s his main source of communication, he’s not mentally in the same place as you and my guess he’s getting his dopamine hit from messaging multiple women. You aren’t on the same page

Closure?! Why on earth would you need closure on someone you've never even met?! FFS.

Stop posting on Mumsnet looking for deeper meanings to his behaviour. He's not interested. Move on.

this whole snap chat thing is a laugh. I only know of ppl under 30 using it, unless it for an affair. From what I can tell I don't think he's just sending u these random snaps of views. He's sending that to everyone in his contacts, I don't think it's meant just for u. Sounds like he's seeing your msgs and choosing not to respond, you're only hearing from him because he's sending snaps to everyone on his list