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Am i in the wrong?

12 replies

saadandsadder · 29/05/2024 18:37

My partner makes me feel like I'm crazy
Both female
Live together
She keeps her hairbrush on the stair cabinet
She never tidies after herself
Monday she couldn't find it
Saying I had moved it
Screaming
I said I hadn't
Anyway I said I won't move any of your things and you can sort your stuff out.
She went off it -fine don't do anything for me again.
She left for work
Her brush was there underneath her clothes
I told her this and all she could say was that I had made it clear I didn't want to clean up after her ,and she was really upset about the way I had treated her.
Two months ago we moved into our house
We have a kitten
It's been freezing so we haven't really opened the windows
She noticed mould appearing on bedroom
Kicked off -this is because you won't open windows
I have asthma
You should have let me open windows.
So I said I agree ,let's start ventilating the rooms.
Il also order a white vinegar spray to remove it.
She then says -those windows should of been open you aren't getting it
Once again I said I agree
Then she said don't talk to me like a child
I said that I wasn't and I was wrong and il start doing the right thing.
She then said you need to leave the room because I'm annoyed and upset
Do you not understand how dangerous mould is to asthmatics
I said yes we will sort it out I promise
She shook her head
So at this point I'm like wtf
And say what do you want me to do?
I can't go back in time
She then says "it's not a joke "
I leave the room
Am I in the wrong ?

OP posts:
Fs365 · 29/05/2024 18:40

She sounds awful, have you bought the house together?

StopStartStop · 29/05/2024 18:40

I couldn't even read all that, so I certainly couldn't live under that regime. Leave. Or throw her out.

saadandsadder · 29/05/2024 18:41

No we just rent
She went on to say that this would of been prevented
I said I agree and I don't want to argue
She then said "why are you arguing then "?
I said there's no argument from me
She started smirking
I don't understand it at all

OP posts:
Gazelda · 29/05/2024 18:41

She sounds very dramatic, very needy and very ungrateful. Not to mention the lack of affection, respect and self awareness.

Do you own? Is it easy to split?

DrJonesIpresume · 29/05/2024 18:46

I'd move out again if I were you - and take the kitten with you.

beachcomber70 · 29/05/2024 19:20

I know someone like that.

Nothing you ever do will ever be right. A conversation to clarify a situation will just escalate into a row. They are unreasonable, snappy, always right. They are unaffectionate, everything is about them, centre of attention, unappreciative, controlling and they rewrite history.

Take the kitten and go, she is not going to change. Believe me. I've been on the end of this stuff [female to female].
[btw: the smirk gives her game away].

Elieza · 29/05/2024 19:21

Make sure the kitten can't get out the gap when you crack open the window. Wee guy.

I'd leave tbh. She sounds annoying.

DonnaBanana · 29/05/2024 20:07

It hasn’t been freezing

Eyelinerwonky · 31/07/2024 06:23

No way to live OP.

WorkCleanRepeat · 31/07/2024 06:27

This sounds awful. I couldn't live with someone that dramatic. Love is not enough I'd be out if there.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 31/07/2024 06:43

You’re in an abusive relationship with her. You need to leave along with the kitten. How can you be helped into leaving your abuser?.

Coco1379 · 10/05/2025 18:31

Why are you even with her?

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