Feel Rejected And Hurt

[Goingoutofmymind90]

I’m just looking for advice as I’m so confused and hurt right now!
I met this guy 2 months ago and we slowly got to know each other as we lived near each other, he was showing all signs he liked me and vice versa.
Anyway I then moved 30 mins away so no big deal, I added him on social media and he accepted straight away and we got it of with the talking, flirting and banter.
We arrange to meet up again but this time more of a date, we made plans for 2 weeks time as we are both so busy.
Once all plans were finalised, it kind of slowed down with his texting but then he apologise for going silent for a whole weekend and said he can’t wait to see me, saying all the right things.
We last text each other last week and he never replied to my last message but thought nothing of it, fast forward to this week and we are due to meet at the weekend for our first date but he has now only gone and blocked me on social media. No explanation, no communication nothing!
This guy clearly liked me from when we use to see each other before I moved and he made it clear in his text as he said he was excited to see me.
So why has he blocked me 3 days before we are due to meet for our first date, I can still see his profile pic but nothing else.
Am I right to be hurt by this and so upset at what I have done wrong.
I am still tempted to go to the place where we arrange to meet incase he decides to show up but I don’t think he will.
What should I do?

You should put him out of your head. It’s not even clear to me whether you actually ever went on a date with him before moving away?

Why on earth would you turn up if he has blocked you?

He just lost interest and/or moved on. You did nothing wrong. Don't waste your time dwelling on this, it won't change anything.

He’s probably met someone else but too cowardly to tell you.

Dont waste any more headspace on this one

of course you have the right to feel upset. but I agree with other posters, just forget about it lovely

I have no idea why you're wondering what you did wrong or considering showing up. He's not interested, there are infinite possible reasons why not. He's shown himself to be a timewaster with no manners. He's not good enough. Forget about him.

Why would you turn up if he’s blocked you?!!!!!!

I can see why you would be upset but I definitely would just forget him and move on. Don't look into anything and I 100% wouldn't go to the place you were going to meet him.

This is a really good example of lukewarm sentiment. A man that is really into you would never behave like this. A man who is 'meh' about you will behave like this. If he REALLY liked you, he would have taken you on the date already.

Only ever go out with men who REALLY like you. The rest don't feel nice - being ghosted, being cheated on, watching them have their head turned by women who are their type - no good.

Only go out with men who can't wait to see you, who message a lot, who are really keen, who don't notice any other women. You can see it in their eyes and their actions when they like you. The rest aren't worth it.

What I would do now if I were you is chalk this one up to experience - you have seen some action taking place, seen how a man who is not that keen is so quick to dismiss you - and wait to meet someone who really likes you. NEVER chase a man who is not into you, it never works and it's pointless. x

He wasn't serious about you from the begining, he was speaking to you out of boredom forget this idiot

i know I need to forget about him but i just didn’t understand why he couldn’t tell me he had lost interest rather then leaving it 3 days before we were due to go on our first date.
He use to always go out of his way to see and speak to me prior to this and was so excited to meet up for our first date.
I have booked a restaurant and a hotel room for our date and he knows this so it’s an expensive lesson learned as I won’t get my money back from the hotel!

He might have liked you but he met someone else he likes more.
He will unblock you if it doesn’t work out with another person and will come up with tons of lame excuses why you got blocked. And rearange for you to meet again.

Bottom line, he doesn’t like you enough.
Not worth wasting your time on him.

He didn’t tell you he lost interest because that is rare. It’s easier to hide and avoid such uncomfortable conversation especially when you already spent money on hotel. He’s scared you’ll ask for half of it back

Either he met someone else meantime, or he wasn't single while getting to know you and his GF had just found out he'd set a date up, so he's blocked you.
Neither reason is good, a lucky escape, let this guy fade and move on, it's good you weren't in deep.

He’s a rude coward if he knows you’ve spent money and not had the courtesy to tell you.

I would say as a future guide NEVER book and pay for a date in advance. Let the man do that if he’s interested.

I know it’s a let down but have you hit a friend who would go out to dinner with you?

Well, he's lost interest for whatever reason and he's a coward and didn't want a difficult conversation cancelling knowing you've outlaid money. If you definitely can't get a refund go and have a nice evening in a hotel to yourself or with a friend. Don't waste the money completely! Next time only proceed if they're keen and eager to see you. Waiting weeks to meet and not texting for a weekend isn't keen. You deserve more.

OP, in the nicest possible way, that was a bit mad, for a first date? Don’t invest so much in someone you barely know! And do you really want someone lukewarm, who is almost certainly also chatting similarly to others, possibly locally, to be guilted into going on a date with you because you’ve spent money on a hotel?

This

Go and enjoy the hotel anyway.

You had book a hotel? Wow, I think it's better to be blocked before you had sex.

He sounds like he was kind of in to you buy not mad about you.