I feel really lost and confused and don’t know what to do. I’ve been with my fiancee for two years and in the process of planning our wedding next summer.
My fiancé’s phone broke and he needed a phone to use for the time being while it gets fixed. I found a bunch of old phones so put them on charge to see which one works so he can use it. Managed to successfully find an old phone that he was using so I turned it on to see if it works ok. (I know a lot of you will say it was wrong for me to do this but I went through the pictures thinking I’ll see cute, fun pictures from before we met) but omg was I wrong and I wish I hadn’t!
I found video after video of recordings of him with different women during the time period he said he was in a previous serious relationship. But the one that shocked me the most was with a transgender male from 2020, two years before we started dating.
We’ve had loads of conversations about sexual preferences but he’s never mentioned anything about being bi. He’s always made jokes and homophobic comments about gay men and how he doesn’t agree with it.
I’ve just got so many questions going through my mind.. is he a cheat as he was doing this while he was in a relationship, is he also into men or was it just a one off thing to explore, is he in denial about his sexually hence all the homophobic comments he makes, will he crave that male attraction and seek it within our relationship or else where? I feel like there’s this whole other part of him that I do not know and it’s not the best way to start a marriage.
Do I speak to him about it and what do I say?