Need a handhold

[DevonshireDumpling1]

I’ve just come out of a 7 month relationship and finding it tough right now.

I’m a 29M met my ex on POF last September.

We got into a relationship end of October and all seemed to be going well and by March we had rented our first house together.

In April, my ex was sadly diagnosed with a brain tumour. During this time, my ex was pushing people closest to her away (myself included) and this ended in the split. Her DM has got involved in every decision of her life. Myself and her DM had a heated disagreement about a few things and this has resulted in her DM not liking me and encouraging her daughter not to get back with me despite my ex reconsidering it.

I have to collect my stuff from the house tomorrow. My ex won’t be there.

Any advice when I see the DM? I’m thinking of taking a card and some flowers for my ex and wrote a letter from the heart to go inside card. Any advice for this situation? Thanks x

Seeing you were together only a short time her DM probably is very protective of her daughter right now. I would step away, but if you do have an open channel of communication with your ex, and if she does not mind being in contact then I would do that occasionally, but ultimately she is going through a tough time and may not have the energy for any additional drama. Not saying that you are, but stepping away, as hard as it is, is probably for the best.

I would keep it really civil with your ex's mum, and dont bring flowers round, respect the difficult time she is going through right now.