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How do you heal as a single mum?

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Summertime1998 · 27/05/2024 19:57

Hi all
my relationship ended suddenly so it’s just me and DD now.

im over the initial shock. Ex says he wasn’t happy for a long time but pretended everything was ok for years and even wanted to start a family knowing he felt this way.

im posting in relationships thread as I guess I want to work on the relationship I have with myself. How do I move on and heal and find myself? The new version of myself as a single mum I mean.

it’s not like I can just up and leave to another country for a couple of months like I would have in my teens. I guess I feel like I don’t want this trauma from the relationship to weigh me down and stop me from meeting new friends and possibly a new partner in years to come.

im pretty good at getting up and at em. Always get up and do my hair and makeup and make sure I fit some sort of walk in each day and always leave the house for my own sanity. But how am I meant to work on myself when my time is devoted to my 7 month old…. I don’t really know what I like and enjoy anymore but it’s not as if I have the finances to do different job courses or join different social clubs like I did pre baby.

everything is just different with a baby - as we all know - and trying to mend yourself when you have a little one is hard. I want to be the best version of myself for the sake of me and my LO and I do really want to meet someone in the future and I don’t want this to stop me as Ive never learnt to truly heal or even know who I truly am as a person now I’m a single mum.

OP posts:
Iamnotpregnant2 · 27/05/2024 23:21

Time OP, honestly it works wonders. Just go with the flow. Try and spend quality time with baby and take photos-enjoy precious moments together. Write a diary. Spend time with friends. Just enjoy this new you. I’ve been single almost 8 years now (out of choice) I was a broken mess when I finally got rid of him but I became a much better person and a much better mum than I’d ever been (my kids were 2 and 4). I’m so much more confident now. You’ll get there, good luck xxx

Tillievanilly · 28/05/2024 08:03

I took a year to myself and had therapy still do. It doesn’t have to be ever week. Could you afford the gym as they often have a crèche. Or could a family member babysit once a week so you could do a class? Before dating I would have things for you wether it’s time with friends or classes so your not reliant on a man for your social life. I did that wrong when I started dated and realise I wasn’t ready.

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