I took advice from the wrong people

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It ruined my life

What advice and how has it ruined your life?

Can you elaborate?

How do you know which person to take advice from

You trust your instincts. If what you're being advised sounds right and sensible then go with it. If it sounds inflammatory or damaging then don't. Advice is just that, advice. Any decisions have to be yours.

You never know.
Sometimes the people who only want the best for you can still give you the wrong advice.

I don't know what your talking about but usually, You have to go with what you think you should do.
Do some research, look up similar scenarios, listen to different people then make a decision. Even then, it may not be the correct one!
Sometimes it's luck.

The only person you can trust is yourself

It's OK getting opinions but you don't HAVE to take their advice its just an opinion its your life not theirs

My father gave me unsolicited advice
and I had no idea he had his own agenda

Advice doesn't have to be followed - you are the one who gets to choose what you do.

Always sense-check what people tell you, and consider whether their advice is likely to help you achieve what you want. If not, consider what alternative courses of actions are open to you, and where they might lead.

At the end of the day, the only person responsible for your actions is you.

As an adult I am of the opinion that you need to take responsibility and not blame others for your decisions. Advice is just that.

I think people are being a bit harsh. No adult has to take any advice, but some adults are vulnerable and can be brained washed/see no other options. I don't think it's as easy as saying you're an adult it was your choice.

You joined MN? 😱

Ahh, that's not good.

It's not unreasonable to think that your own father would have your best interests at heart, and that he wouldn't steer you wrong on purpose.

Is whatever decision you made salvageable?

I've done this too. It's okay. What people like us need to learn is to trust our own inner voice and intuition. It takes time.

No Category it ruined my life Employer was dismissing me unfairly and father trying to help but he did not know me A friend was trying to take action against employer but father giving opposite advice He was a selfish man who had dumped his family etc
So I had too much advice and my father appeared to have his own agenda
The moral is Do not give unsolicited
Advice

I think the moral should be - weigh up all advice (whether solicited or unsolicited) against your own experience, knowledge, gut feeling, understanding of the intentions of the person giving the advice.

If you're driving a car, and your passenger tells you to pull out at a junction, and you pull out, and hit another car - that's your fault as the driver. You were in control of the car and should have used your own experience and knowledge. You can't blame the passenger for giving bad advice.

It's the same thing - you are in control of your own life. You are affected by your own decisions. You know yourself better than anyone else. People can give well-meant advice to you but be wrong. People can give badly-meant advice to you. People can think they're doing the right thing but be badly informed.

I'm sorry if your father wasn't acting in your best interests. That's awful for you.

The other moral is don't take his advice if you didn't tell him the whole story.

Thanks for your help Interesting

Unsolicited advice is precisely that.
Unsolicited.
For proper and impartial advice you need to consult an expert

Yes, exactly. It's an individual's responsibility to weight advice sensibly and choose whether to act on it or reject it, regardless of whether they sought it or not. And saying 'I'm not looking for advice, thanks' is always an option if you don't want unsolicited advice.

OP, kindly, if you start one thread and provide all relevant information you’ll likely get some help and support.

it’s near impossible to understand what you’re looking for with the multiple threads and incomplete posts.

I think you can have too much advice though and sometimes people havr
THEIR OWN AGENDA buyer be aware