Am I overreacting ?

[Dj2020]

So to start this off myself and my partner have been together 5 years and have a 2 year old. He has been booking trips (consisting of mostly drinking) away with friends without even checking if the dates etc are OK for me. Is this normal? Am i over reacting like he says i am and controlling?

No

Hmmm, my partner makes plans without checking with me, but if there was a clash he would alter them

Is he an intelligent, fully engaged parent, feminist, and contributes equally to the running of the house and you both have equal leisure time?
If not, sadly you’ve got a deadbeat misogynist of a boyfriend.

No , this is not acceptable and you are not overreacting.

Just to add I'm finding these have been booked way in advance and even in July he's agreed for his friend from overseas to stay here and they are off to London for a festival yet I don't know anything about it other than it's booked. It's on a Friday so I have to speak to my boss yet again about collecting my son and leaving work early (my partner usually collects him) and the weekend away I've been asking for for ages still hasn't happened

he's taking the absolute piss

how about you book an un-discussed few days away with friends and let him decide how to cover work and childcare?

It’s on your boyfriend to sort that. His holiday, his responsibility to arrange childcare/pickups. Book your weekend away and use it to consider if dating this bloke serves you and enhances your life, and is fun. If you discard him he will have to parent his kid, or pay you CMS for his failings.

I think you are spot on