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Can I get a 'poll'....strange question but how many people could 'cope' with this ....

31 replies

mimimilk · 04/04/2008 20:16

Basically not having a working bath (plumbing hasn't worked for over a year)
but we have a shower (thank god!!).

And no cooker either, it broke about two months ago.

Loads of other stuff needs doing but these are the two most pressing needs.

I've posted this in relationships as my DP doesnt seem bothered, I want to remortgage the house (we can afford it, both working good jobs etc) but DP is fixated on selling the house, which we haven't been able to do yet (18 months and counting).

Its really causing friction between us and I just want to know if I'm weird to be able to put up with this or AIBU to think it can't go on?!!

OP posts:
TotalChaos · 04/04/2008 20:17

I saw a lovely cheap house that I wouldn't buy as it had no bath at all. As a viewer a none working bath would have completely put me off a house.

fryalot · 04/04/2008 20:17

I'm guessing it's down to you to bath the children and cook tea?

I suspect that if it was him being put out by these things not working, he'd gett off his arse and fix them.

Just a thought...

BigBadMouse · 04/04/2008 20:24

I have coped with both things (at the same time) but only because we had no other choice. If you can afford to get them fixed / replaced as neccessary then I can see your point.

Not suprised you can't sell the house tbh. I'm assuming the non-functioning bath and cooker aren't immediately obvious to a prospective buyer but I bet the other things you mention need doing are. Tell him if he really wants to sell, then things need to change.

AdamAnt · 04/04/2008 20:30

I could just about cope without a bath for a while, but wouldn't buy a house without one.

I can't imagine how you are coping without a cooker. Seriously - how???

BeMyLilBaby · 04/04/2008 20:31

i couldnt cope

Hassled · 04/04/2008 20:33

The reason you're not selling your house could be the lack of a bath or cooker. Just a thought.

I have survived for 2 years once without a cooker and it was horrible, but do-able. But I don't think I could manage without a bath at all. So no, YANBU at all.

Lauriefairycake · 04/04/2008 20:34

You have to fix the cooker and bath if you're trying to sell the house. Our cooker door is broken, new one coming soon and our house is about to go on the market. It is a tough housing market and having those two things broken would definitely put me off.

PinkTulips · 04/04/2008 20:34

have turned down rented houses due to lack of bath so would imagine it's a good reason not to buy one too.

and how in the name of god are you managing without a cooker? i couldn't last a week without one.

kick up the arse needed for dp imo

parentingishard · 04/04/2008 20:34

if you both have good jobs, why not just buy a cooker and fix the bath?

ByTheSea · 04/04/2008 20:34

I could cope without a bath, as I take showers anyway. But I could not cope without a cooker.

expatinscotland · 04/04/2008 20:36

No cooker I could not put up with.

That's ridiculous.

What do you eat?!

I would not buy a house with no bath. How do you bath your children?

MrsTittleMouse · 04/04/2008 20:37

We didn't have a bath for ages, just a shower. I could not cope without a cooker though. And I would be really put off buying a house that didn't have either.

dejags · 04/04/2008 20:38

Agree with PIH

RustyBear · 04/04/2008 20:38

Depends how old your children are - in our house I'm the only one who ever has a bath, every one else just showers - in fact when we had the bathroom redone, DH was seriously suggesting not having a bath at all - I soon put paid to that one!
I went two weeks without a cooker when the kitchen was done - it was inconvenient but manageable - but I wouldn't buy a house where both bath & cooker weren't working - it would make me wonder what else hadn't been done...

dejags · 04/04/2008 20:38

Could do without either.

Alambil · 04/04/2008 20:39

I have no bath OR shower and no cooker either atm - I have a George Foreman, microwave and slow cooker so we aren't going to starve!

I have to go to my parent's house if I want a shower or to bath DS.. fortunately they are local.

It is a royal PITA but I'm sort of used to it now

chonky · 04/04/2008 20:41

YANBU. Print this thread out and stick it under your dp's nose.

FWIW there's no way I would buy a house without a bath or cooker space (unless it was obviously an absolute wreck and priced accordingly). In the current market there will be plenty of houses coming up for sale with bathrooms and cookers...

hecate · 04/04/2008 20:41

how do you eat?

I assume it's your intention to show this to your husband in the hope he'll see sense!

OI!! GET IT SORTED!

No cooker in a family home is daft. No bath, well, it's a matter of preference - some people don't like them, but if you want one and can afford to get one put in, then really, just do it.

And I'd say don't cook for him until you've got a cooker! - or just buy one yourself!

Bridie3 · 04/04/2008 20:42

I'd find that hard.

chonky · 04/04/2008 20:45

OK - have just re-read OP. Having a shower instead of a bath not so much of a prob (I initially scan read it as no bath or shower!). However, the house would sell better as a family home with a bath.

expatinscotland · 04/04/2008 20:45

But a family house with no bath?

I can see, say, a city loft, or a one bed flat.

Or even a bungalow with a more elderly market in mind.

But not a family sized house with no bath.

warthog · 04/04/2008 20:47

my xp was like this. actually had an oven, but he never got round to connecting it.

i left him.

luckylady74 · 04/04/2008 20:50

I really don't understand - I assume you have a bank card? You could go online now and have a cooker delivered on monday. Why would you need his permission - if he's not interested then he doesn't get a say.The other things are the same - it's sad if you have to sort it out on your own, but get people to give you names for plumbers and so on that they rate in your area and then get on with it.

warthog · 04/04/2008 20:52

depends who owns the house. if she has no stake in it, why should she pay to fix it up?

DoodleToYou · 04/04/2008 20:53

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