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Think he's going to cancel our date but I do have anxious attachment

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crampsy · 21/05/2024 22:39

We've been chatting for weeks.. I know, I know! But genuinely , I could not meet up and he said he couldn't either .
We were due to meet weeks ago but I became anxious when he didn't respond almost immediately and said a few times, that if he wanted to leave it that was ok. He got pissed off with this nonsense and effectively cancelled our date.

I was angry with myself but we reconnected again and have been chatting since . We now have a plan in place to meet this weekend but my gut is telling me he is goi g to cancel.

Nothing has changed .
The energy is mutual and we equally message and chat about stuff .

He is interesting and seems interested, yet I'm fully convinced he will cancel.
If he does, what do I say ?
If he doesn't, what the hell is wrong with me ?

OP posts:
crampsy · 22/05/2024 11:06

Thanks everybody.
@Starlight1979 I completely changed my exchanges with him this time so I am learning and I'm putting therapeutic suggestions into practice but he has no idea I have felt like this or do feel like this .
I have been relaxed and matched his energy. Deep down and privately though , I am anxious. He would not sense this , this time round.
I am working through this and trying my very best, believe me . If I don't date , I could be waiting forever to employ a secure attachment , non anxious engagement and I don't want to take the risk of missing out on something special.

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Bobbotgegrinch · 22/05/2024 11:19

What does it actually matter if he cancels @crampsy ?

He's not going to, but even if he did then the worst that will happen is that you don't have a date. Thats it. You shrug, go Oh Well, and find something else to do with your evening. You haven't lost anything if he cancels, you've not even met the bloke yet!

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