Worth dating after 60?

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I’m early 60s and considering this question.

On another thread related to this issue a few posters have suggested “it’s not over”. But also that being alone and fancy-free is also great.

I do occasionally get interest from men, but am very selective and definitely don’t want some kind of generic male company for the sake of it. I need intelligence character, SOH, and an element of good looks 🙂!

So, sometimes I think it would be nice to have some enjoyable male companionship. At other times I feel I should be realistic and honestly accept that my romantic life is pretty much over (feels a bit sad but also peaceful?) and I should focus on other things.

Thoughts?💭

@ViciousCurrentBun my interests are cycling, hillwalking, golf, playing tennis and watching motorsport. I wouldn't be looking for someone to do ALL of those things with me but one or two would be wonderful.

Joined various groups related to these things. All absolutely useless. I am just too old for anyone active to be interested in me. All the active men my age are looking for women in their thirties.

I would like to have someone to go out to dinner with. I'd like to meet someone who would be up for a trip to watch tennis or a golf tournament.

I have met a couple of very pleasant men who would be interested in sitting watching tv with me but I can sit and watch tv on my own so it doesn't appeal. It makes me sad that that's all I can aspire to. Being slumped on the sofa with some chap and being grateful for it.

Am I asking for the moon on a stick? I'm not putting men off with my lists of endless demands because I am just not meeting any men to put off.

I am simply too old.

61 and alone for a decade. I have an amazing life and, I think, more to lose than gain by being in a relationship. I get the occasional desire to have someone to go out with in the evening. Plenty of friends but all the local ones are couples. I get included in everything but there are events they're just not interested in. I've always worked in male dominated industries and have lots of male friends, but the only one where I felt there was a spark has just got a girlfriend twenty years younger 🤷‍♀️

I travel, eat out and go to the cinema alone quite happily.

Don't think I can be bothered with sex again.

It happened for my mother at around 70, and she dated a nice man before him as well. Her recent partner was wonderful - a rare specimen at any age, tbh. It's true they get even rarer as you move up the age scale!

If I thought there was anything close to a 50% probability of meeting someone who was right for me at my age, I'd consider making the effort. But there isn't, and life's getting measurably shorter - I have no intention of spaffing my time and energy on incompatible men. I'd stand more chance of success panning for gold in my local river. I'm not doing that either!