Husband and his ex borrowing money, weird?

[Lemonade3]

Hi MN,
Long story short, my husband co-parents well with ex who he shares a young son with. We also have a 18 month old daughter together. We all get on well for the sake of the children. One common theme that I’ve found odd through our relationship is that my husband will reach out to ex to borrow small amounts of money for example £10 and she’s done the same. I found this out by seeing messages pop up on his phone.
He pays decent maintenance so that’s not an issue. I did mention I saw a message once and he was causal about it like it wasn’t a big deal.
Would this bother you?

No wouldn't bother me.

Could you lend him the odd £10? If so, then yes seems odd. If he has nowhere else to go and you're up against it then maybe explains it better.

Yes I'd think that was really weird. I'd expect him to come to me if he was short. Not an ex.

He should be going to you not her.

I can’t borrow him anything as I don’t work atm I left my job as they didn’t offer part time so looking at other options now.
He pays for everything and some weeks we struggle. He’s never told me he needed to borrow here or there.

OP - clearly your H doesn't want to worry you about struggling to be the sole breadwinner and coming short at times.

In the situation where you quit your job without having something else lined up - i don’t think you get to get upset at him for something minor as this.
It’s a great thing his ex is nice and understanding. And that their relationship is without drama.