Have I crossed the line?

[Matilda46]

I’m feeling really guilty as I feel I’m in the wrong but I really need some advice…

So I become friends with this girl through work and she really fancied this guy at work. Nothing ever happened with them but she was really caught up on him and was gutted when the feelings weren’t reciprocated.

She left a couple of years ago but we still remained in contact etc. A couple of days ago I was at an event and me and the guy had a moment and admitted there’s something between us. I explained that I felt to guilty for anything to happen properly because of my friend but we did end up kissing (after a few drinks)

I do feel like there could be something between us but should I ignore it ?

You did when you said the other girl had feelings for him as it was not your business to tell him but aside from that no.

I fail to see what the issue is. Your former colleague doesn't own him.

Personally if you want to take this forward, I talk to your friend first,
Its much better to hear it from you than anyone else

@Psychoticbreak he already knew she had feelings for him because she told him ages ago

IN that case fire away. He has no interest, they are not a thing. Go for it. Life is too short.

This sounds very 'high school'. Sure, teenage girls own the guy they have a crush on, but I would hope a grown woman would realise she can't monopolise a man she has never even dated. I truly don't understand your thinking, OP

Op, that woman and this man never even dated. He wasn't interested in her. He is not her ex. Are you really going to pass up an opportunity for a relationship with a seemingly good man because your former coworker once had a crush on him? That would be bonkers.

I am in no way saying you need this friend’s permission, but if you value the friendship and want it to continue, ask the friend if she would be upset/have a problem with you and this guy dating.

Of course, no matter what she says you can do as you please but if she has moved on and is past it she may well say it’s fine and feel you’ve been respectful to ask first. If she says it’s not fine, then you’ve got a choice - a friend who clearly does not hold your happiness in higher regard than some ancient feelings for a man she hasn’t even seen in two years or a man you could have a future with. That will be a straight choice and a matter for you as to which relationship you want to pursue further.