I separated from my ex husband 8 months ago. We were married 6 years.
In the last 8 months, he moved straight into his new partners house and her kids and now she is pregnant - this is his 4th child to the 4th mother. I think she's around 4 months pregnant so he worked fast as always - he wanted me to get pregnant straight away too. 1 of his other kids has nothing more to do with him.
He was very emotionally abusive towards me and controlling also. I refused to let him back into my home after a particularly nasty incident and he over to his mums house. I have no proof that me and the new woman over lapped but I have a strong suspicion we did. He cannot be alone and always has to have the next woman lined up I have discovered.
We have 1 child together which ex hasn't supported at all during our separation. He's been to busy getting his foot in the door with the new woman and knocking her up.
Now he's moved in fully and got her pregnant, he's now ready to play dad of the year again to my son. They have a brand new car - he's in debt massively as a side note - and right now he's now keen again to play happy families again.
He went 3 months without even seeing our son and barely asked after him. Getting maintenance out of him is an absolute nightmare.
This has all been incredibly hard on me. It's been a hell of a lot to take. I never wanted my marriage to end. I wanted him to change - it was never going happen and after lots of therapy I realise this.
Today he FaceTimed our child and told him that he had cleaned the trampoline ready for the next visit so ds can play on it.
My immediate thought process was 'oh my gosh, he really had changed'. How stupid is that? Just because he had cleaned a trampoline - this is the new gf trampoline.
Every FaceTime he puts her on the call - seems to be rubbing it in mt face. I have him blocked on everything and don't speak to him unless I really have to. I have spoke to the police 4 times in the past but haven't been brave enough to take it further.
As it stands, my son only sees his dad for 1 days every other weekend. Ex is saying now saying that's not enough contact and is going to 'put his foot down' for more time yet he chose to not see our son for months.
I really thought I'd feel better once I was finally free of him but 9 months on and I still feel well and truly drained. I can see he is just repeating patterns 100% - I just can't get to a point where I don't care anymore.