New relationship

[Holly1212]

Looking for some advice.
Very early days into dating. I am 35 this month and the guy I am dating is 46. We have known each other a few months but been dating afew weeks.
We have both been very clear just how much we already like each other and have for sometime, we love spending time together and make each other laugh.
The issue is I have 1 DS and would love if I had a second. There is no pressure that I have to have a second but I would like the opportunity, I also know due to my age I don’t have much time to waste.
Only last night did he tell me he has had the snip, which left me shocked but also confused. Feel like I cannot say anything as it is very early on to have this conversation. Do I carry on and see how we get on, end things or make it clear I like him but it is not long term for me?

Tell him what you want and that you're incompatible. No point dragging him along if he's not able to give you what you want and why waste your own time and fertile years.

How do u know at 46 he woukd even want a child? Snip.or more snip?

End it.

If you want another child so much then find someone who shares those values. If you stay with him you will only come to resent him.

You'll have to tell him it's short term only if a second (biological) child is what you want in life.

Incidentally, AFAIK, the snip can be reversible if a guy changes his mind.

It is reversible so you should gave an open and honest conversation about it.

@BCBird I don’t but that’s a conversation to be had in any situation. It’s more about possibility and with what he told me I don’t have that.

@Illbefinejustbloodyfine
do you think it is too early into things to have this conversation?

If you really do believe you want more children, you need to finish with him now - as he is not available to you to be a father and he has made the choice not to be able to father children.

Just tell him the truth, you want more children and thus are looking for a partner to have them with.

End it and date someone your own age. 11 years won't seem.much now but rest assured it becomes a lot once you yourself are in your late 40s.
Also you can find someone who wants kids.

@Holly1212 no, I dont think it's too early. The alternative is leaving it, potentially the relationship develops, abd then what? So much harder to break off (if that's how it goes....)

Fwiw I'm 46 and seeing someone with a bigger age gap. It's going very well, so that wouldn't be the worry for me.

Just add, the children question never came into it because of our ages and I'm clear that I don't want more.