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Partner excluding me all the time

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12243bell · 18/05/2024 13:27

I have a child to DP and yesterday we were invited to his friend's child's party. For some reason the lead up to anything like this he starts to be funny with me. Making me not want to go. Anyway I got ready, got the kids ready for him to say to me before we went out the door where was I going. So I said nowhere because I thought what a twat. Even though I was dressed and ready to go with them. I thought I am not giving you the satisfaction of me saying I am going with them for him to say I am not. Anyone else's partner do this. I literally don't give a crap no more as it's all the time. It does hurt but I think what a childish thing to do.

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TammyJones · 18/05/2024 18:05

AllAtSeaAgain · 18/05/2024 16:56

I'm a bit confused by the way it's worded, but I take it you were going to the party with him and he had a dig saying 'where are you going?' meaning - 'you're not coming out with me'?

If so, why on earth did you say, 'Nowhere'? I'd have said, 'I am coming to Xs party as invited' and looked at him as though he were insane.

If he'd THEN said, 'No you're not, I don't want you to,' then I'd have responded with, 'Excellent. That's perfect. In that case, have a LOVELY afternoon with lots of small children. I am going out into town to enjoy myself and will probably meet up with friends of mine. I'm not sure what time I'll be back'.

And then I'd have made plans to dump this fuckwit.

Exactly
But the op made no sense and now op has left the building.
There has been a lot of these just lately.

StrawberryWater · 18/05/2024 18:14

He's making you out to be a horrible person to his friends so he can play victim in his theatre of nonsense. I bet he loves playing the main character in everything he does.

He's a bully and a nasty little man. Get rid of him.

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12243bell · 18/05/2024 18:19

I haven't left the building..I posted as I was about to go out for the day then I had a sick toddler. It's been a nightmare day.

I realise our relationship is really not good at all. And I think reading through the comments makes me realise this is a bad relationship. Don't get me wrong, part of me was happy he was taking my dc while I had a break. But it's the norm lately for him to do this. He did this when it was my friend's wedding and we had been invited to the day and night and he stayed in bed until I begged him to go. I've slowly but surely had enough. And I think looking at the replies today just ferments I really need to get out of this relationship.